[Tanman]

I like to feel meloncholy alot of the time. My girlfriend tells me i'm mean to her, but I know she likes it. I just let her know im not a pushover when a lot of other guys would fold. I just stare at her with "unblinking" eyes and she says it's spooky, like I can read her mind and she can't read mine.

I try to keep it under control alot of the time, my ruthlessness. But sometimes ruthlessness is beneficial. I would do almost anything to win if I knew I wouldn't get in trouble. You know who I feel like if I let my guard down, like tony soprano, or his uncle jr.

It doesn't matter, I'm still a good person. I'm altruistic, yet feel like if you cross my path I would love to see you burn. This sounds so negative and im sorry, im just trying to provide an example. But yeah, I can be cold and ruthless. It feels good. My dad who was in the marine corp told me I have the personality to be a drill instructor, it's a very tough job but I think he is right.

I would just like some psychological insight if anybody has any, I have no qualms with this personality.

[ocd123]

Hi, Tanman! I'm just wondering--have you been professionally diagnosed with this personality disorder or do you think from reading about it that you share these personality traits? <font color="blue"> </font>

[toonkate]

im exactly the same, if someone crosses me i will try my best to get them back.
but i can be a very nice person most of the time, to those that deserve it

[JustBen]

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I wouldn't be so sure of this, Tanman.

Have you talked to a therapist or counselor about all this? This isn't the kind of place where you can come and get a diagnosis. I'm also curious as to what's going on that you're interested in this. Does your behavior bother you at all?

Hiya.

You said you feel meloncholy a lot... That doesn't sound so very consistent with sociopathy to me...

Of course I could be wrong (I am not a diagnostician)

But I heard that sociopaths tend not to feel sad...
One theory is that because they tend not to feel sad...
They tend not to develop the secondary emotions of guilt, shame, empathy (for example) that are requisits for moral behaviour.

You say you are altruistic... 'Yet feel like if you cross my path I would love to see you burn'. I feel like that too lol. If someone crosses me... Yeah I can get pretty mad. I think most people do, but I guess some people are afraid of feeling mad 'cause the people who hurt them in the past were mad and so they get scared about feeling mad in case they go on to abuse others. I feel like that sometimes, a little afraid of my rage. But other times... If someone crosses me I would like to see 'em burn yeah.

What are some examples of altruistic behaviour that you can think of?

If someone hasn't hurt you in any way...
Would you like to see 'em burn?
If someone was picking on them (and they hadn't hurt that person in any way)
How would you feel in response?

Would you not be too bothered...

Or would you be mad that someone was being unfair to them?

[desirae]

Well I'm definitely not a professional....very very far from, but I can tell you what I think.

My husband of four years has a personality very much like that. I used to tell myself that maybe it was a quality of a man to be cold in situations where a chick would be compassionate or sensitive. But eventually I realized it was more then that, that his anger and coldness was beyond men's nature.

What I've concluded with our situation is that he has developed this coldness, hardness, and nothingness to deal with life. This is his way of suppressing his frustrations, compassion, and sensitivity. He was severely abused and neglected as a child and I believe this was the way he adapted to his life at the time.

I'm not sure if this has anything to do with you or not, but from ^ up there it sounded much like my husband.

I'm just blabbing nonsense hoping I'm saying something beneficial......hopefully I said something that made sense....lol.