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Dec 31, 2014, 09:18 PM
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I have bpd, dependent personality disorder and pmdd. My ex said he would have his gf leave (who is a major trigger for me right now) if I shape up after she leaves and if I don't and if I act up, at his discretion I go inpatient.
Is this fair or even right? I know for a fact that having her gone I will be better, but Idk about my other triggers. I usually don't have many. |
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Dec 31, 2014, 10:20 PM
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I hear this...your new boyfriend will leave his present girlfriend if you shape up......I have red flags already. The rest of what you said sounds like he is concerned about you but..... don't you have to walk a tight rope in order to get him as a boyfriend?
I thought relationships were about mutual understanding and trust. I am leery of this. 
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Dec 31, 2014, 10:22 PM
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As am I. Hoping for some insight on Monday when I see counselor.
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| sideblinded
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Dec 31, 2014, 10:29 PM
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| silentangel1969
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Dec 31, 2014, 11:05 PM
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what power does you ex have making any determinations in your life? he is your ex. it is nice that he is willing to give up his girlfriend because she is a trigger for you, but if he is your ex, what type of relationship do you still have that you are involved with him and his girlfriend in the first place. it seems like he cares about you to do this and his "ultimatum" is basically stating that if you still have problems, it obviously isn't about his girlfriend, you have other issues you need help for and he wants to see you get help. he was willing to make a sacrifice for you to see if you got better based a a trigger that you thought was a problem and he is saying that if that wasn't the problem, evidenced by your continued problems when she is out of his life, then you will agree to go to treatment. he is saying at his discretion because he thinks you have difficulty admitting when you have problems I think.
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Jan 01, 2015, 12:48 AM
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We share same house and raise our last set of twins together.
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| joe2014
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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