I am so angry right now that I want to scream. My husband finally recieved his social security back pay. He was supposed to get 10,000$ dollars. I was irate when we recieved the check and it was only 3,000. We called social security only to be informed that his ex wife had filed an injunction with the courts to get back spousel support. She got over half of his check. A while back we went to see a lawyer about getting the spousel support stopped since she has been remarried with two kids. Ususally in these cases you pay for seven years or until they remarry. My husband did not have a lawyer when they got devorced. He got stuck with 35,000$ dollars in credit card dept, loss of all his stuff exceprt the cloths on his back. She even got the stuff he had from his childhood. She got the house as well. On top of all this he has to was ordered to pay spousel support for seven years. The support was to cover the morgage payments. After my husband became physically disabled unable to work we sought out the lawyer. When he signed the decree his ex had in there that it would no longer be in the jurisdiction of the courts. Other wise it can never be stopped unless initiated by her. The lawer wrote a letter to her explaining Kevins problems in detail and asking her to stop. She wrote a letter back saying it is unfortunate that he is experiencing this, but life is tuff and everyone goes through difficult times. Just because this is a difficult time does not give you obligationg to stop paying me and disregarding your responsibilities. *****. The laywer told us don't pay becaue if she did take us to court the judge would throw it out due to being disabled and unable to pay. She new from that letter he applied for SSD. Both her and her husband have very high paying jobs. This is just pure &%$#ing greed. We are basically raising her kids and paying her bills. They also take out alomost three hundred dollars out of his monthly checks. My husband and I lost our house, had to move twice, sold most of our stuff to pay bills, finally gave up and filed bankruptcy. On top of this all we don't even have enough to get through a month. Our child has special needs. I hope she has a Merry &%$#ing Christmas at our expence. We were going to use that money to pay off late bills and start a small savings account for our daughters college fund. I am so sick of being screwed in this life.

[Perna]

That's horrible. How many years has it been since the decree?

[AlteredState01]

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My husband did not have a lawyer when they got devorced. He got stuck with 35,000$ dollars in credit card dept, loss of all his stuff exceprt the cloths on his back. She even got the stuff he had from his childhood. She got the house as well. On top of all this he has to was ordered to pay spousel support for seven years. The support was to cover the morgage payments.

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'Hell hath no fury..."

Uh, now where did all this stupidity arise from - oh yes - your husband - for not engaging a lawyer in the first place, as she had done!

And in this day and age where money rules and selfishness is the norm, do you really expect her to give up what amounts to "free money" now?

You should have seen my b/f's ex-wife freak as his girls began reaching legal age and all that cash was slipping away from her. She tried using his credit history to shore up her bad credit; she has tried getting updated info on his pensions (for what?? She had given up all rights to those earnings during the divorce!) Her excuse? She needed the info for a mortgage - BULL! She has even resorted to getting one daughter involved in trying to get him to pay for more than his share of the "extras" that come up by asking her to keep $$ figures a secret.

I know you are angry, but did it not occur to you that his history (of having another family) would always be, in some ways, a financial drain on him for many, many, MANY years to come??

Even my b/f keeps thinking that once all his girls have reached legal age, he will be free and clear from financial obligations. NOT SO! They are, after all, his kids. He is not about to deny them help or gifts from this point on. (Already one daughter left him holding an $8G bag when she blew him off after paying only one payment on the car he bought her, then trashed it).

Oh, and we haven't even began discussing the real possibility of grandkids coming soon, which may come without support of a husband or boyfriend of their own.

(BTW, his loss of property, etc. about equals what your husband's loss was.)

Ex-spouses never really go away...

I do feel for you, though, and especially for your child, who is really the one who loses here.

[AlteredState01]

You know what? After considering your post a little more, you are right....SHE IS A *****!