[serenity4u2]

Unfortunately, I am stuck dealing with a difficult person now and into the future. (Let's call this individual MW.)

Basically, MW pathologically must have the last word in every conversation, and their last word has to contradict, demean, correct or nullify anything anyone else says. Even simple small talk is met with this oppressive conversational domineering.

Often, the contradictions and corrections border on absurd. For example, if you comment on the weather and mention "clear blue skies", MW will correct you and try to convince you that the skies are green or purple, not blue. When you resist or refute MW's "correction", he gives you a good dose of verbal abuse that is supposed to make you feel stupid that you don't agree with him. If you continue to insist the skies are blue, eventually he will become belligerent, even physically violent.

Normally, I would consider a person such as MW to be just a colossal jerk. However, since EVERY SINGLE interaction with him follows this exact same pattern, I suspect he may have a serious personality disorder. No one here is able to deal with it. Most just avoid him as much as possible. I was one of them! Now I can no longer avoid him, and must be around MW for extended periods of time.

Is there a name for this type of behavior?

If it will help, MW has another quirk that is equally annoying. He insists that the people around him like the same things he does, or if they don't he will either pout, antagonize or get even with you. An example of which would be, MW insisting that everyone watch some action movie (of course he has to be in control of the remote/equipment), and then becoming upset and abusive if his "prisoners" are not showing enough interest and enthusiasm for the show he tries to force them to watch.

Help! It is exhausting, and this is a looooooooong weekend.

[krzyk101]

Hi Serenity4u2, I don't have any advise or any answers but did want you to know i read your thread and to you here to psych central forums, hopes things get better and most likely someone here can answer more clearly or have advice, take care kk101

[Christina86]

Wouldn't know if there's an actual label of a personality disorder etc, but unfortunately nobody here can really diagnose this friend of yours.

If this is an issue, have you suggested that MW get counselling? Or perhaps talking to a counsellor yourself, to figure out ways to deal with their behaviour and how it affects you?

[ECHOES]

A simple "We are separate people with separate thoughts" repeated as a reply to every kind of comeback from that person might help. Let it be your mantra and your conversation (if you want to call it that) stopper. It could be that it is a verbal battle this person is looking for and you can take it away by having that as your only and constant reply.

And of course when this person is demeaning or belittling, they should be told that their words are hurtful.

[RiverX]

For my contribution, he sounds very toxic, what echoes says sounds like a good tack.

but it its as dark as it sounds, could be a severe case of Narcissistic PD. Check out Sam Vaknin - website and book. NPDs have a developmental arrest which means they never separated, they are big people with an emotional baby age, they really think the world is all about them.

read all you can learn all you can if you're really stuck with this unfortunate situation. Could be growthful tho! be careful...

think,think,think!

best of luck, keep sharing.

[VoNPD]

Here's the link to Sam's FAQ page. Read and learn.

sounds like in addition to NPD, could be some OCD and ODD? but then im just guessing. only a Therapist can diagnose.

[Greg77733]

He sounds like my x-stepfather and I got something to say to you about that. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is a nacassissic self soothing goood for nothing @astard. Run!!!!! He will hurt you !!!