[dunnit260]

I posted previously under "Is it paranoia?" with no responses. Maybe I was too dramatic, I was certainly feeling dramatic. What are some good things to try when it seems that there must be something in your personality or behavior that almost consistently turns people off? How do you get honest feedback from others?

[Safron]

I believe paranoia is quite simply a heightened sense of awareness. You may be rather sensitive to other people’s reactions and mistakenly believe these reactions have something to do with you but they may not. Instead of wondering what you are doing that seems to turn people off try to learn more about your own level of awareness, instincts and intuition. You might be pleasantly surprised.

[Michah]

Honesty is in the eyes of the beholder.......I assume that no one is honest until I feel that I know them well enough to prove "consistency"........if someone is proven to love me then I can take a bit of a gamble with their honesty.

It is a hard one......truth. Truth is a perception and is tainted with bias.

I would concentrate on what YOU want from yourself......once you practice that, other people tend to also give you what you want......which is honesty.

Be true to yourself and others will follow.....good luck!

[Puffyprue]

Originally Posted by dunnit260

I posted previously under "Is it paranoia?" with no responses. Maybe I was too dramatic, I was certainly feeling dramatic. What are some good things to try when it seems that there must be something in your personality or behavior that almost consistently turns people off? How do you get honest feedback from others?

Its hard to get really honest opinion about our self from others coz sometimes they wont hurt us but try to asking what ur possitivity and negativity thats others or your friends think about youand then reads again and see what the common from ur friends opinion and i think thats the truth..iam sorry about the post ..keep posting...

[dunnit260]

those are good words to hear.

I think I'm sensitive since I have trouble getting past slights that other people seem to forget about easily. I'm one of those adults who complain about their childhood. But I don't think the slights are "in my mind." If someone criticizes your looks, you know it. And you can always tell if they're saying it in response to their own insecurity. You can tell when people are gossiping when it seems that people you barely know ask you questions or make the same comments as a lot of other people. If someone spreads rumors about you and criticizes that "you think you're better than other people because of xyz" And then it seems that everyone (even people you barely know) keeps making little comments like "I don't care about xyz" "you're only saying that because you've got xyz" "you could lose xyz any time..." Again, the problems are always with other women.

[Junerain]

I, too, am very sensitive, and slights they hurt, hurt bad...

Could you share what the XYZ is, for me, my XYZ is being so open about my illness, people think I 'create' my bipolar out of the blue sky! They say SHUT UP about you being bipolar- it is your excuse for everything!!

How wrong and very wrong they are..

I had to get a job with a bunch of eccentric, freethinkers, before my self esteem and confidence it shot right up like that!

I had no family to speak of.

The freethinkers they saw Junerain for who Junerain was, a valuable human being with thoughts and emotions that MATTERED.......

awwww.....I am tearing up now......