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Jun 22, 2009, 07:51 AM
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i have a facebook account with all my friends and family. I am an abuse survivor and have ptsd because of it. There is an annoying cousin who thinks he is funny...he brought up the subject of the house i grew up in where a lot of the abuse occurred. He mentioned the name of the street and that he went by it yesterday and described a room i had been abused in. It triggered me really bad; flashbacks, unwanted thoughts, extreme anger, wanting to scream at him because he triggered me, but if i did that, it would cause a really bad reaction with my family that would be distructive. But between the flashbacks, i came up with an idea so i would not have to deal with him or his insensitive jokes or comments and won't find unexpected triggers. The rest of the family does not talk about triggering things. I remembered the "remove friend" button on facebook...so i used it! And you know what? His triggering status was gone! And i realized although i cannot change the past, i can sometimes do things to keep reliving it!
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Jun 22, 2009, 08:40 AM
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Good for you! I commend you.
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Jun 22, 2009, 11:43 AM
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Do you think your cousin is intentionally trying to tigger you? Does he know of your abuse background? If he did this on purpose, and knows your history then shame on him for his insensitivity. Sometimes all we can do with someone like that is exactly what you did. Kudos on taking a step that takes care of you.
Calm
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Jun 22, 2009, 12:39 PM
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do not think he did it on purpose... He was not around a lot... Anything connected to that house is a trigger for me except a maid who did everything she could to help me and protect me... I have not seen that house in over 38 years and it is in ohio and i am in texas. I have worked through the child abuse issues, but with pstd there are still triggers. Will really need your support over the next few days. Thanks for being here.
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Jun 24, 2009, 06:29 AM
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I think that was a great thing to do - by removing your cousin - if he didnt know aobut it and you want to keep him as a friend can you just say you dont want to talk about it again? just a thought - take care P7 
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Jun 24, 2009, 08:36 PM
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talked 2 cousin, everything okay now. He actually understood. I do not think his life at home was not a bed of roses. I appreciate the support! :-)
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#7
Jun 25, 2009, 05:16 AM
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yeah!!! well done!!!!!
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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#8
Jun 25, 2009, 08:54 AM
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(((NuckingFutz))) Good for you! I have done the same thing on facebook myself.
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#9
Jun 25, 2009, 09:27 PM
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thank you!
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