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Old Nov 20, 2009, 06:39 AM
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so i left an abusive relationship like 8 or 9 months ago for a man who treats me so much better and like how i should be treated. he makes me happy and we live together and im so happy with how everything is going now. but for some reason i can't get the abuse of my ex out of my head. i find myself thinking of it often and have even found myself trying to contact him a couple times without any good reason and feeling horribly guilty about it afterwards. i hate my ex and don't want anything to do with him and i esp want to forget about him and what happened but i can't and i don't understand why or what drives me to him. i don't love him anymore im in love with a much better man so what the hell?

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Old Nov 23, 2009, 09:18 AM
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Hi Jewelgrrl. Welcome to this board. It sounds like there may be some other issues at work here that you may not be aware of. They may be the reasons that you were attracted or pushed to your ex in the first place.
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Old Nov 23, 2009, 02:12 PM
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What need is getting met (or trying to be met) by focusing on your ex???
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Old Nov 26, 2009, 07:38 AM
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What need is getting met (or trying to be met) by focusing on your ex???

Exactly. What is fulfilling about contacting the abusive ex? Do you still feel like you want to be treated not so well? You deserve much better! Take Care
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