[anxietydisorder]

My father has been abusing me and my family for about 8 years now.
We had to move out of the state to get away from him.
He enjoys seeing us in misery and pain.
We got a restraining order, but we know what he's saying about us behind our backs.
We struggled for 2 years to get him to regularly pay for things, since my mother got laid off.
I need emotional help.
I can't get to a therapist; we have very little money and our car broke down so we can't take a taxi.

[Elysium]

Hi, and welcome to PC...

It sounds like you and your family have been having a really difficult time. Abuse is horrible and so painful.

I understand that financially things are not well for you and your family. I think you are right, you do need some help with your emotions. Anybody and everybody who goes through experiences like what you have been through would.

I'm glad that you can see that you need the help and that you seem willing to reach out for it. That's a good sign. This site is very supportive and we will all do what we can to help you through the tough times but you really need to find a counselor or adult professional to help you.

How old are you? Are you in school? If so, then I would suggest going to your school guidance counselor and speaking with them about your issues. They may have some resources that they can share with you to help get you set up with some help...and they may be able to help you as well.

Also, if you have a good friend who's parents you are close too, you could go to them. Keep reaching out to those that are in a position to help you.

We will be here for you.

anxietydisorder, has anyone checked to see if your father can be prosecuted for stalking? Is your father under a court order to pay support? If so has anyone talked to the city or county attorney about enforcing the order?

You may be able to get some help here: http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Sec...iateFinder.cfm

Is there a cleric or teacher that you can talk to?

Good luck.

I agree with all of the above advice, also wonder about social services? Food stamps, help with electric and heating, , can your mom file papers as a displaced homemaker at a counselling center and get free counselling for you all?

Have you all reached out to a Domestic Abuse Hotline--they have many sources of help. I found one that even offerred an underground (won't say more on that).

The best help I ever got-was not through the courts-I had no money-He had a private attorney in all courts--and repeatedly broke into the house was in getting a mean dog. Orders of Protection did not deter him, Violations of the Orders and spending a night in jail did not deter him, but the dog did.
I got the dog when she was 1 year old, and little did I know, she had been abused and bred to be a fighter dog. One night, I lay in bed with her spooning and scratching her belly, I drifted off to sleep-and she rolled her head around her eyes back in her head, and got me by the juggular-I froze. She let go.

She never slept with me again, and you could not put your hand above her head--
but no one ever broke into that house or tried to bother me again.

I kept that dog throughout my ten year long divorce.
Better than any Order of Protection. (((HUGS))) to you and yours-theo