I don't know anymore...

I really don't know anymore. My ex fiance has PTSD and DID. He is 35 and has been suffereing for the last 30 years. He has been in and out of institutions. He is an alcoholic. ITs the only way he can cope. I broke up with him and he "gave up" on life. Aparently I was his last chance. Which I don't think that this could be helped. I am angry at the fact that I did love him and that it has to be this way for him> I refuse to believe that this is it. That no one can care for this man. That he cant find the will to live life as a drunk. I mean, it's worse than drunk too. It is just stupid. I am so upset thinking that he is so alone and has the mental attitude that no one cares and it can never get better. Isn't it with a positive attitude and the will you can. Isn't that fact, that your mind is more powerful and of course it will enver get better if you believe it won't. Isn't that how life is? or only ironic for myself? I mean, does anyone know how I can support him, what am I supposed to do? Let him waste away? It is so sad. I can't give up on him even if he has given up on himself. But I suppose I have to because it would be liking kicking a dead horse? I mean, I do understand that mental attitude thinkng cant work for everything especially in PTSD/DID but it cant hurt right? What am I missing about this? Some one help me. I need feedback.

Hi vl I'm sorry that you feel stuck in this situation/relationship... obviously your "ex" isn't quite that..yet?

PTSD only becomes worse without treatment... sometimes it progresses faster than not.... but DID tends to "break down" with age... the coping mechanisms that worked so well as a child, or early onset of trauma, begin to not work so well as adults, or as they venture out into the real world. Your "ex" has decided to self medicate with an age-old remedy: alcohol. He sure sounds like he needs someone who is consistent with being "there" but also with the same information over and over again... he needs professional help... he can learn to cope differently ... and can lead a life that is worth living... it will take work, I wouldn't know if he has it in him to do so.. good wishes.

Thank you Sky. Yeah it's so sad. It just has gotten worse. He will prolly be dead within a year. I would think one would want to get help instead of live defeated. its so stressful ....i dont know how to support him...