Just needing to vent this...

My niece tried to killl herself last week. We just found out about it today. I don't know many details, but I imagine that's cause my family (estranged) is trying to keep it hush hush (the less you pay attention to mental illness of any kind the better). She's 14, took a bunch of Nyquil tablets at school, freaked out told a friend, the school rushed her to the hospital. Sketchy details...she has bulemia as well, and my sister had known (I guess) for a while...today was a hearing (at court?) but no one seems to know what it is all about, and no one wants to say (my sister that is).

Just like her to make a horrible traumatic experience more torturous by doing so (she does this with pretty much everything...gives a nibble, and freaks us out). So I guess G. will be going to a hospital upstate of where they live...

I haven't a clue what to do. All I know is when it started to sink in with my SIL & I as we spoke we both said pretty much the same thing...it could have been one of those calls (the day my brother killed himself).....thank God she is ok, I mean, physically at the moment.

So, to all of you that ever think of doing that!!! PLEASE NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU FEEL YOU ARE UNLOVED, OR UNCARED FOR...OR WHATEVER, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE LIKE ME IN YOUR LIFE, that still loves you, even if you did push us away!!! and still hurts for you, still cries for you, and will lose sleep over you! I am so thankful she didn't kill herself, and I hope she can figure this out....

(((((((Alisandria))))))))) I'm glad that she's okay.

I'm sorry to hear that your neice is so desperate so young in life especially. Please send her a card telling her that you care, aren't judging her, know family can be difficult, or whatever similar understanding statement you wish... so she knows you do care. Make sure they won't return your card first (for not being on contact listing.) If she is returned home quickly, don't let that stop you from making contact.

I suggest making this a therapy issue for yourself. When there is a family history of suicide, there is a tendancy for others to attempt, or at the very least be unable to cope well with life situations.

Oh - It breaks my heart to hear of a young girl having so much pain living inside of her soul..... someone needs to find out the REASON why and them take it from there, better to deal with it now before it grows bigger than her wounded mind can handle.

If I may.................... Can I PRAY for HER?

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

Thanks. Just so disturbing, because I guess this is not the first attempt. I don't know what is going on with her. I knew something was wrong years ago and tried to intervene but was in so many words told to BUG off!

My family is seriously dysfunctional...I really don't know what is going on in my sister's household. I stopped contact with her several years ago for some rather strange reasons. So, does it totally surprise me? No. Does it hurt? Yes. Do I think it could have been prevented? Yes.

I still don't understand whole court hearing thing...but I guess we are not going to be privvy to the why's of that. Just leads me to believe there is a whole lot more going on there than meets the eye. My niece G still refuses to speak with her parents. I think that's going to be for some time to come. I hate that she is being labeled uncoperative because of that. As I understand she has been trying to speak with them, but they weren't hearing her.

Thanks for your kind words, advice, and yes by all means you can say a prayer or two for her. I'm just glad she is still here, and has the chance to turn this around.

hugs, Lisa

the thing about letting ehr know you love and are there for her: hows about a tiny picture of you in a tiny locket for her to hold on to or something like that? something of you she can hold, literally, on to when things get bad. maybe with your phone number in there too.....

i was a suicidal kid. every now and then 1 person would come along and their kindness would keep me going. it was like one person would be so kind to me it would last and last cause i would replay the event over and over and over in my head, clinging to the spark goodness. one person, even at a distance, can do a heck of a lot to comfort the suffering person. tiny little things sink in very deep.

Hi
I really think it would be a good idea to try to speak to her even if you haven't in a long time. Parents can be very hard to talk to, and just someone showing that they care can mean the world.
There was a person next door to me once who guessed I wasn't feeling well so she gave me a ball and let me use their hoop in the backyard, she let me do her puzzles and walk the dog. Little things like that just made me feel that someone cared.
I don't know much about your niece or you, but maybe you could help her in similar ways.
I'll send her a prayer and hope she gets better.

Thank you both. I called my sister this morning, that didn't go very well. I just called to extend my support. I don't know if my sister was just being cold to me, as the way she is sometimes, or if she's just being cold & distant because of all this. I got the general feeling this is a nusance to them, and I heard via the grapevine they think she's just doing it for attention. Which not only pips me off, but saddens me greatly.

At the moment my niece is in a center and she is under restriction, so I cannot have contact with her. My sister herself needed approval from a judge to go see her. I don't think my sister really gets the magnitude of this all, but that is the way most my family views mental illnesses, even after my brother killed himself. Yeah, they didn't learn to much on that life lesson did they? Sorry, I am just really rather angry right now.

I am going to call the hospital she is in to see if I can at least send a card to her, what the policy is on any type of communication. Take it from there.

Please do keep her in your prayers, I think she has a long road ahead of her, and from what my sister said, it looks like she may not even be released back to their home (which I think may actually be a good thing). I am really hoping my other sister can take her in, not sure if that will work though. We will see.

Thanks again. Lisa