[Demeanor]

this weekend my boyfriend and i were mugged at gun point while walking to a bar just a few blocks from our house.
the car pulled over and a guy got out pointing a gun in our faces demanding everything we had on us..
i didnt even realize what was happening at first.. i kinda froze..i wasnt even scared ..then when he grabbed my bag off my shoulder, i yelled at him, wanting my keys out of my bag, which enraged him and he started shouting at us, telling us to go.. so we started walking away and they drove off.. we were litereally like 200m away from the bar, we tried running there to find my brother, but i suddenly felt so sick and dizzy.
when we got there,we told my brother what happened and contacted the police. we went down to the station to open up a case.
while we were there we heard over the radio the milnerton police found a car matching the description of the guys who robbed us.. they had driven into a curb as a police van was driving past, so my boyfriend drove with one of the officers at the station to the scene of the accident and positively identified the two men. they were arrested and went to court yesterday morning.
the police only found my boyfriends cell phone and none of my things.. nor did they find the gun.
sunday i was bit uneasy.. was in bed, tried to sleep but kept waking up thinking there was some1 in the house. my boyfriend was gone all day doing work.. but now.. i dunno, i kinda feel "blank" .. everyone keeps acting like i should be freaked out .. in tears, frightened.. etc.. but i feel nothing.. almost like it never happened.. i keep thinkin of what happened but i remember it like i wasnt there if that makes sense..
my boyfriend and i have been rather tense with eachother since then.. he sleeps all day, while im at work, i get annoyed with him for that, so i just get home and go straight to bed..for 12 hours of sleep.. and then cant get up in the morning..

[Gus1234U]

it is often the case that shock numbs us for a while after something happens suddenly. and you didn't suffer physical pain, just a fright and confusion... the sleep is probably the mind's why of buying time to deal with the shock and confusion...

all in all, i would say, let feelings return as the will, don't fret over the delay, sleep as much as you need, and delay quarrelling with bf...

i wish you well~
Gus

[Open Eyes]

(((Demeanor))),

It sounds like you are in "shock" and your mind doesn't know "what" way to react about this situation. However, what you did was right, you didn't end up hurt and you reported it and the police "did" find the two men that held you up.

Hmm, they didn't find your purse or any of your things from your purse? Maybe they riffled through it and got whatever money you had and threw it out the window. But they "did" have your boyfriend's cell, so that is evidence that they "did hold you up and took from you". Someone should be trying to trace the route they feel they took and see if they can find your things on the ground somewhere, could even be in the woods if there were any they had passed.

It sounds like your boyfriend is in shock too, that event probably really frightened him and he is responding with trying to "sleep it away". Some people have that reaction, they are hoping they will wake up and find the trauma just didn't happen.

I really think the both of you should see a therapist and "talk this event out" and take the time to help your brains "settle" with it so you don't begin to mentally go down the wrong direction.

Remember, the two of you are "ok", the police have the people who did this, and you are "going to change your locks and do whatever you need to self protect".

(((Hugs)))
OE