[Healing the Damage]

Hi,
Sorryr for makin a new therad...

I am strugggling tonight and am not sure why but it's almsot always coneceted to my PTSD WHen I am like this... I am not sur ewhat to do to help it...

HelP?

[Open Eyes]

Oh ((Living_in_Chaos)), sorry you are struggling tonight. Can you have some warm milk and find a light hearted movie to watch, that always helps me. Remember, these challenges always "pass" ok? The key is to distract your brain with something calming and that helps your brain realize no need to prepare to "fight/flight". Even reading can help too or flipping through magazines if you have any and if you don't you can browse online, like sometimes I look up country kitchen styles and browse through pictures, or look at different furniture, you "can" window shop online, it's fun and has no bad messages which is soothing and keeps you in the now too.

Keep reminding yourself, "I am ok now, I am safe now" too.

And you don't need to appologize for starting a thread when you need help either, that is what this "support" group and site actually is for.

((Caring Calming Hugs))
OE

[Healing the Damage]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Oh ((Living_in_Chaos)), sorry you are struggling tonight. Can you have some warm milk and find a light hearted movie to watch, that always helps me. Remember, these challenges always "pass" ok? The key is to distract your brain with something calming and that helps your brain realize no need to prepare to "fight/flight". Even reading can help too or flipping through magazines if you have any and if you don't you can browse online, like sometimes I look up country kitchen styles and browse through pictures, or look at different furniture, you "can" window shop online, it's fun and has no bad messages which is soothing and keeps you in the now too.

Keep reminding yourself, "I am ok now, I am safe now" too.

And you don't need to appologize for starting a thread when you need help either, that is what this "support" group and site actually is for.

((Caring Calming Hugs))
OE

I don't like milk sosrryr. Iam trying to watch a show on NEtlfix, bt ti's not helping. I cna't focu so n anything. I'm calm, jsut... not ok... I Don't kwon. Sorrry

[Parley]

Maybe a hot shower will help you gain focus. a small goal that feels good.

[Healing the Damage]

Originally Posted by Parley

Maybe a hot shower will help you gain focus. a small goal that feels good.

IC na't take showerds or baths thisla te at night or i "ll ge tin trouble iwth my parents

[Healing the Damage]

I dn't understand why I can't seem ot be ok fo rmore than a couple fo hours sright now. It doesn' make sense, because I wa sok for years, but not ok anymore.

I don't konw how to not be dissociated and flashbakcy and not ok

[Open Eyes]

((Living in Chaos)),

Yes, that is how I was so confused too. It is an individual challenge depending on an individual's personal history and what trauma/trauma's have taken place in their lives.
A way of understanding it is that with these trauma's a fracture took place, the individual still functioned not realizing that this fracture needed to heal. Because it never was healed, if too much "stress" took place, it could break, and that is what is going on with PTSD. It is a "stress" breakdown and it's finally time to take time out to finally "heal".

Right now you are very "sensitive" as is the case with any injury. It's just very different because it isn't something you can see, but, you are definitely feeling the sensitivity of the injury. Each person is different depending on what is involved with their personal stresses that they finally have to take time out to work through.

Each time you have a "trigger" take place that disables you, it isn't happening to punish you, it isn't happening to tell you that you are supposed to feed into it either. It is just telling you about something you need to pay attention to, talk about, and finally work through so you can "slowly" process whatever it is with "validation" more "resolve" and understanding of whatever it may be that hurt you that caused so much "stress" to you.

[Bluegrey]

It's really weird, isn't it? Just the feeling that things aren't right, that there is some sort of disconnect. I get that too, though at the moment it's not so bad - maybe I'm getting used to this. But it comes in waves, in cycles - maybe it's just time for your mind to want to take the next step in the healing process?

((Living in Chaos)) As others have said, doing something to distract your mind may help. I can't concentrate enough to read books at the moment, which is horrible as that has always been my main relaxation - but I can flip through websites and so on, or play basic games like patience or 2048.

Are your parents sympathetic?


Bluegrey

[Healing the Damage]

Thanks, Open Eyes *hugs*

I don't really have a ton of time to take out to work on things. Therapy is damage control to try to prevent a full blown crisis. My therapist said that she doesn't think I'm processing things right now at all, just too much happening all at once, and I'm "shutting down" as a result. I don't know if that is true or not though. But I know that I am not really functioning that well anymore.

The analogy of a fracture makes sense. But I think I am having trouble understanding it because well, when I fractured my ankle, I could see and feel it. And how can you see or feel it when your brain is fractured?

I don't know what all of the triggers are. I mean, I keep winding up flashbacky and dissociated and have no idea what is causing it, which is making it hard to avoid those things.

Bluegrey - thanks for your reply. It is weird. It's like, I know that things are wrong, but I don't know how to fix them.

*hugs* I have tried distractions, but once I am triggered and flashbacky and dissociating, I can't think or distract myself. I do play 2048, and it is a good distraction sometimes, but not always.

My parents are not sympathetic.