I don't know really, if it's comparable to others experiences. But I wake up a lot of mornings, and feel haunted by thoughts of something that happened to me. I have been doing a lot of self improvement stuff, and trying to "overcome" my negative thoughts. And some things help. But I wonder if it's just something I need to accept. I blamed myself for a while. I felt like I deserved it because the person hurting me made me feel like I did. I think that's why I blamed myself anyway.

If nothing physical happened, is it still trauma? How do I heal?

I have experience upon experience, to be honest. All emotional and relationship related. I'm beginning to build healthy personal boundaries.

Thanks for listening. I just think I needed to share.

[Spiderlegs]

First...If nothing physical happened, is it still trauma? ABSOLUTELY. Much of the trauma I've been through has been not been physical trauma.

I had a flashback yesterday from a simple phrase repeated by someone that an abuser had used. That abuser was never a physical abuser and would tell you he is the most gentle, most sacrificing, most 'Godly' man on earth.
I find mornings the worst, knowing you'll wake to being obsessed with the latest trauma. Interestingly, my BP is also always higher in the mornings.

I have several experiences where nothing physical technically happened but it was traumatizing. Never compare your pains to others or your abilities. I think acceptance is part of healing, but not the only part. If it were as easy as accepting and moving on, nobody would need help processing. Finding a really good therapist who is a good match for your intellect and emotional intelligence is vital I think. Someone's who you respond well to. Good luck.

[Nammu]

Emotional abuse can be worse to deal with than hands on abuse because there is no visible marks but is is just as bad.