Monster Mommy finally went too far

It sound like it a good idea to get a protective order

Are you sure that you don't want to start collecting evidence against your parents for harrassment? In case you need to go to court.

It possible that you will never know. Start gathering evidence against them. So you can enforce the no contact.

Sound like a plan!

MI stands for mental illness.

As to my husband, who knows. He understands what's wrong with me, but I can tell he resents it, as he should. It's not his fault but he bears the brunt of it.

As to monster mommy and her minion. I know where they are. When I'm ready, I'll go. They may die of old age before that happens and that's okay.

So after some more research, I discovered they were together from 2012 to 2016. That's when they were living together. I wish I had known back then. I would have killed them both. Two birds with one stone, so to speak.

I found his exact address as well. I'm thinking about driving down and finding him - just watch him for a while and see how I feel.

I am sorry that you are struggling right now!

Perhaps just let the neighborhood know about how bad they are.

My medical records speak volumes. If I took them to court, I'm sure I would win, I just don't know if I could handle the stress.

I thought of that. I should write to the assisted living center he's living in right now and tell them they have a pedophile in their midst.

I almost drove to Texas today to confront him, or at least watch him for a while and see how it makes me feel. I will probably have a panic attack, but I know how to talk myself down. If I get my laundry done today, I may go tomorrow. i just want it over with.

Well, I still haven't made it to Texas yet. I'm terrified even knowing there's nothing to be terrified about. I'll report back when I get over being such a chicken.

I have to do something soon or it will tear me apart.

OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!

I went to confront Noble, my ex-stepfather who molested me, only to be told that he was DEAD!

*WW doin' her happy dance*

there are tons of folks on here who have gone back to poor relationships...sometimes a bad one is easier and "safer" then a new one. is it the right or best thing? no. but it happens, all the time. honestly being labeled stupid by others here who may or may not have made similar choices probably isn't the most helpful. to me what would be a more helpful choice would be commending the poster for recognizing her choice for not returning into that relationship and recognizing it as an unhealthy one.

we can't make choices for others..or know what factors they brought into their decision making. it's like a drunk returning to alcohol. they know it's wrong for them but in times of stress it might be their choice to return to drinking. plently of women (and men) return to unsafe relationships because that is what they are familiar with...to them in a way, it is safe. clearly to us it might not be, but that is not OUR call.

anyway, my call would be to assist the poster with recognizing her decisions , not her families...because in the end that is what really matters.

I am sorry, that must be difficult to watch happen. Unfortunately, I don't think either can be much help to anyone while they are in that state. Just remember that you are not defined by them. They may have been part of your life at some time but who you are and who you become is up to you. I hope writing your letter has brought you some peace of mind. Know that there are people here who care about you and understand that what you are feeling is real and very raw. You have a right to these feelings, because they are yours.

So it's been around 6 weeks since I learned of his death and what a roller coaster ride it's been!
My bipolar started cycling every couple of days or so, my depression was horrific and all the old stuff like nightmares and 'seeing' him...it all came back. It was as if my sub-concious suddenly became a waterfall and all this "stuff" started just pouring out of me and I was powerless to make it stop.
Now it seems better, I've stopped cycling - for now. Gee, I can't wait till my mom dies. I imagine it will be much worse.
For now, I'm good. Thanks everyone!

WW

Today I am doing my first EMDR session to deal with the sexual abuse. I can't say I'm looking forward to it, but I am looking forward to the results.