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I finished an EMDR session today. It was very helpful. I have these feelings of sadness. Sometimes I just cry. It scares me though. I just used to push it away. How do people feel sad? Does it come in waves? DO you just let it come and let it be? How do u sit with sad? I know I should know this. I dont.

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well sadness is not easy i just let it take its roll in my life and i know wht mean about crying and all i have crying episodes were i will sit there and just cry let it all out there is no simple answer for sadness just as there is no simple answer for life itself

If i feel sad i cry .... i cry very easily and i can never stop it which i suppose is good. sometimes when i'm supposed to be strong for others i cry, i just can't help it. Sadness comes in waves for me .... out of the blue i feel so sad, i get this deep deep feeling of despair, but these days i know it won't last....

Jin xoxoxoxoxo

[(JD)]

I think your idea of just "sit with sadness" is best. If we are overwhelmingly sad (such as when my Figaro died) then it doesn't seem to go away day to day, but does come in stronger waves. It is important still for me to realize when I'm mourning again/still, and take some time and sit and think and feel sad; enough to validate my sense of loss. THEN it's equally important to put the sadness back on the shelf and get through the day in a better state of mind.

Some fear that it will never "go away" but stay strong all the time. It will fade some, you will adjust and honor those feelings in different ways. But I do think it's necessary to "sit" with the feelings and recognize them at times.

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My EMDR therapist called me back today. She said to just let it come. When you have something to be sad about let it come. SHe told me to monitor it. She said its different then being sad all the time. If your sad all the time you dont want to encourage it. She told me to just watch it. I just have so many things I processing today. I have to proritize what is most important. This EMDR work is number one. I also had bump in the road with my regular therapist. Its all me not her. I can deal with that on monday when I see see her. Then I am processing something around my step grandma. SHe was just grandma to me. I have some very sad moments of our last visit together. Her daughter my step aunt had been killed by her husband in front of my grandma at my grandmas house. I saw my grandma at the funeral and I was made to spend the night with my grandma. I felt helpless to help her feel better. There was evidence of the crime every where and my grandma was severely traumatized. I think that was to much for me at the age of 15. I got moved to a different foster home that christmas and never saw my grandma again. Alot to process at the same time. It just all came up at the same time.I am tired this is all alot of work. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ