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Old Mar 08, 2009, 03:33 PM
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Two months ago I was dx with PSTD, Since then I moved to my husbands hometown, which I really love but theres a problem. Right now all my things are in Florida and my husband truck broke down. So what makes this really intolerable is that mt father-in-law is always trying to rub me in inapproiate places and sicne I have not let him he states that I am being mean to him and that i can no longer use his truck. On top of that my mom-in-law may be bi-polar or just old but her mood swings jump from one second to the next. Yesterday I asked her if she was feeling better;she felt dizzy in the moring. She snapped my head off for asking telling me she never feels good and her nerves had had it.
I have never been one to live with anyone because I feel like I'm in the way. No place more than here, I walk on eggshells constantly its like being with my ex all over again. I feel the same now as I did then doing everything I can think of not to make them mad at me. My husband is working furiously to fix his truck but everyday till then i can not relax
I have cried more in the week i have been here than in the 6 months. I dont know what to do, help if you can.

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Old Mar 08, 2009, 04:10 PM
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Two months ago I was dx with PSTD, Since then I moved to my husbands hometown, which I really love but theres a problem. Right now all my things are in Florida and my husband truck broke down. So what makes this really intolerable is that mt father-in-law is always trying to rub me in inapproiate places and sicne I have not let him he states that I am being mean to him and that i can no longer use his truck. On top of that my mom-in-law may be bi-polar or just old but her mood swings jump from one second to the next. Yesterday I asked her if she was feeling better;she felt dizzy in the moring. She snapped my head off for asking telling me she never feels good and her nerves had had it.
I have never been one to live with anyone because I feel like I'm in the way. No place more than here, I walk on eggshells constantly its like being with my ex all over again. I feel the same now as I did then doing everything I can think of not to make them mad at me. My husband is working furiously to fix his truck but everyday till then i can not relax
I have cried more in the week i have been here than in the 6 months. I dont know what to do, help if you can.

Yikes. Have you told your husband that his father is making sexual advances toward you, and that he won't lend you the truck unless you 'put out'?

What if you just were honest with your husband and told him that you cannot live with his parents and stay well? It's the truth, isn't it?

Do you have a therapist in the new town? What if you went back to Florida with a rented truck, packed up your things, and stayed with friends, and asked your husband to have a rental ready for you when you come back with your stuff?

Would that work?
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Old Mar 08, 2009, 09:16 PM
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Yikes. Have you told your husband that his father is making sexual advances toward you, and that he won't lend you the truck unless you 'put out'?

What if you just were honest with your husband and told him that you cannot live with his parents and stay well? It's the truth, isn't it?

Do you have a therapist in the new town? What if you went back to Florida with a rented truck, packed up your things, and stayed with friends, and asked your husband to have a rental ready for you when you come back with your stuff?

Would that work?
Well we have rented a house but renting a truck is to expensive. Yea my husban knows about it all and hopes to have his truck fixed tommorrw and if all goes well we will be out of here this next weekend. I just cant stop shaking its making me sick
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Well we have rented a house but renting a truck is to expensive. Yea my husban knows about it all and hopes to have his truck fixed tommorrw and if all goes well we will be out of here this next weekend. I just cant stop shaking its making me sick
I'm so sorry to hear of your distress. I'm glad your husband knows what is going on and is doing all he can to get you both in a safer place. How difficult for him too.

I'm sending you both thoughts of healing and protection. May whatever bring you temporary comfort in this difficult time present itself easily to you swiftly and without obstacles.
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Old Mar 09, 2009, 03:34 AM
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I'm sorry you are going through this melissa1202,

I'm glad your husband knows - maybe you wont have to ahve anything more to do with them - I hope so - take care
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Old Mar 12, 2009, 03:45 PM
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Two months ago I was dx with PSTD, Since then I moved to my husbands hometown, which I really love but theres a problem. Right now all my things are in Florida and my husband truck broke down. So what makes this really intolerable is that mt father-in-law is always trying to rub me in inapproiate places and sicne I have not let him he states that I am being mean to him and that i can no longer use his truck. On top of that my mom-in-law may be bi-polar or just old but her mood swings jump from one second to the next. Yesterday I asked her if she was feeling better;she felt dizzy in the moring. She snapped my head off for asking telling me she never feels good and her nerves had had it.
I have never been one to live with anyone because I feel like I'm in the way. No place more than here, I walk on eggshells constantly its like being with my ex all over again. I feel the same now as I did then doing everything I can think of not to make them mad at me. My husband is working furiously to fix his truck but everyday till then i can not relax
I have cried more in the week i have been here than in the 6 months. I dont know what to do, help if you can.

I'm very sorry about your terrible situation. Try to avoid your father-in-law, if at all possible. Just stay away from him. Maybe avoid eye contact, hurry by him, only necessary conversation--I'm just brainstorming here; these things may or may not work in your situation. But if he continues, I think you should speak with someone. I know there are agencies that help people in situations like yours. Maybe your local women's shelter will have the right contacts. Your father-in-law SHOULD know that his conduct is wrong and is affecting you greatly. Maybe avoiding your husband's parents altogether may not be a bad idea.

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Old Mar 13, 2009, 02:45 AM
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Hi,
it is good to discussed all about your stress problem to any of your close relative.

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Old Mar 13, 2009, 11:44 AM
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Of course you're worrying hon, you have an anxiety disorder (PTSD.) It helps to keep that in mind, how it affects every aspect of your life and thinking...and to know that the way you are feeling is due to the disorder, and not that the whole world is coming apart.

So good that you have a husband who cares. Work hard to keep him aware of how you are doing, and how hard you are trying ...and encourage him when you can, in times of stress. Hang in there, sounds like he'll have it fixed before too long...I mean, it WILL be fixed and you WILL have your items at some point, right?
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