[lizcb]

My parents just left 2 hours ago to pick up my sister. Shes now getting out of prison, after being in for 8 months. She got sent in for doing drugs so what can i do now to stop her from making the same mistake again? I've already desided to make her go back to church. Thats the only thing I can think of. I know God will help though.

[katheryn]

i hope your sister will look for your support but i dont think you can make her do anything she has to be willling to accept that there is a better life without the drugs,
you can allways just be there for her , wish you and your family lots of luck

[almostangela]

Tell her you love her and she needs only to ask for your help. But, she must want it and be the one reaching out. It's hard to watch and it may take a long time, but your support will never be wasted. All the best to you and yours.

[Sarah116]

Now that is bad, she needs support and inspiration to change her life around.

God bless!

[alisandria]

I agree, I don't think you can make her do anything. Actually trying to "make" or force her to do something may backfire on her. Her life has undoubtedly change, and will continue to change a lot. The best thing you can do is be supportive, listen, and if you can't find an answer help her look. It's ok not to have an answer. I imagine she must have a probation officer? you can go along with her if it's allowed and she would like the emotional support.

(((Liz)))) hugs for you too. This has got to be hard on you, and your family as well. It's adjustment for you all. Having a place like this for support for yourself is a good outlet for you as well. Keep us abreast, and ask questions, talk...whatever you need. hugs Lisa

[DizzyLizzy]

I agree with what the other posters have said - that you can't make your sister do anything, and trying to force her to do anything could backfire.

My suggestion is to get information for her about NA (narcotics annonymous) and AA (alcoholics annonymous)meetings in your area. Information such as meeting places and times, with an offer to go with her if she wants/needs support, but also telling her that you will respect her privacy to go to the meetings alone if that is her choice.

I know your post mentioned drugs use and not alcohol use, but the reason I mention AA in addition to NA is because there are often a lot more AA meeting available, and because AA does address drug issues in addition to alcohol since many people have duel addiction (drugs and alcohol).

My other suggestion is for you to find local Al-Anon meetings in your area for you and your family (parents, other siblings) to attend. Al-Anon is for people who are friends or family with an addict and/or alcoholic. They can help you and your family learn the do's and don'ts of supporting and loving a person who is drug or alcohol addicted (whether the person is still using or is in recovery).

Take care,
Liz

[alittlehoshime]

Hi LIz

Its great to see that your sister have someone like you whom is caring, concern & loving. However YOu need to be strong of whatever things you wanna to do or plan to do to help ur sister. U need to get more help not just internet. But your frens, parents as well or anyone whom encounter your sister's situation that would lift up ur spirit and energy and to go further. Try to identify your sister's emotions or love language then you can slowly get into her life. Bringing her back to church is one thing but I dont think now its the best time. ( you can pray for her and fast for her ) or finding out what's she likes (games, shopping, movies etc etc ) and things which is triggering ( making her remember of her past mistakes ) anything but not sin of coz. Give her time and space Do not force her. She needs to be more eager than U afterall its her life. I'm sure she will be touched by your consistency one day. If you persevere. (((((((((((liz)))))))))) gbu dios te bendiga!

start going to al-anon meetings asap. the entire family.(not your sister) the SOs need to learn that they can't change the patient, but they can change how they react and start responding. that within itself, can make a huge difference in an addict's recovery. you will learn how to not enable and how not to push......and you'll learn how to save your sanity.