[phoenix7]

Ok I need cheering up so Im starting this thread ...

If your T could do one nice thing for you what would it be?


I would like T to give me a hug

Your Turn

[rainbow8]

I would like T to let me email her.

Suggestion: How about adding one nice thing our T already does for us?

MIne always returns my phone calls, usually within a couple of hours. Often she even answers the phone so I don't have to wait in "agony" for a call back.

[deliquesce]

woud like: give me a hug
already does: so many things! but if i'm limited to one thing... complete positive regard and acceptance. i feel like i'm the most valuable person on the planet when i'm with pdoc.

[3velniai]

Great thread
Nice thing my T already did: she emailed me a few stories, that were both fun to read and gave me something to think about.
Nice thing I would like: idk, I get everything I want, I even send her emails in English (and I'm from not English speaking country, but sometimes I think/write my journal in English, idk why). Oh, I would like her to offer me stuff to draw/collor during sessions.

[mixedup_emotions]

I would like T to give me a hug and to call me - out of the blue - just to see how I'm doing.

What he already does? Gives me reassurance when I'm going in the right direction.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by phoenix7

Ok I need cheering up so Im starting this thread ...

If your T could do one nice thing for you what would it be?


I would like T to give me a hug

Your Turn

She would move to an office very near my workplace, instead of 25 miles away
OK, more realistically: I can't think of anything else. She does a lot
for me already.

[cmac13]

what my therapist does for me: lets me call between sessions if I need to and always calls back right away if I leave a message, lets me write letters between sessions, allows me to bring my art journal to sessions to share how my week has gone, hugs me if i ask her to, but most of all she listens and never judges me...

what nice thing could she do for me? HA! never retire! she is the best!

[chaotic13]

Tell me how insightful I am :-) and that she is on board in helping me design a comprehensive treatment approach.

Oh... It would be nice if she'd take my comp exams and write my disseration too...that's all I need :-)

I would like him to give me a hug (but I understand why he doesn't).

He already returns calls quickly. Puts up with my moods. Is my anchor and balance in life.

[peaches100]

What I would want her to do:

Give hugs and not retire

What she does:

Lets me email and responds (even though i know she doesn't like having to respond to lots of email in her job).

Even though she won't literally hug me, she does visualizations with me of her holding the little girl part of me.

Goes to conferences and reads books to find ways to help me.

[laura2]

That he for once would move over to my side, & give me the biggest hug ever

He knows when to just let me go to where ever,... & when to bring me back...

[taylor43]

Mine would be to phone through out the week and see how im doing

[Dani]

Would like: Either a hug or just to sit closer to me in sessions.

Already does: Reminds me of how far I've come and how much progress I've made.

I am so spoiled, I honestly can't think of anything T could do for me that he doesn't do already.

I guess he could tell me I am his favorite client! lol Teen me was in therapy today and working REALLY HARD to get him to say I was his favorite. All he would give me is "I really, REALLY like you A LOT". lolol Poor T.

[mightaswelllive]

One (very little, teeny tiny) nice thing T could do for me is to move across the country in August when I do. A little far fetched? I'd settle for an "I'll miss you."

One nice thing T did was tell me that I'd make a great therapist someday.

[Elysium]

I have a fantastic T. She sets appropriate boundaries and is always thinking about what is best for me.

If She could do one thing for me it would be to give me a hug. I long for safe human contact from people I trust, which aren't many, and I rarely get it.

What she has done/is doing...well...the above, and she puts up with me...which is more than enough. Oh, and she gave me a bumper sticker about something we both enjoy which made me feel connected to her in a good way. She also encourages me to move forward with my Social Work education and I know that she is pulling for me in every way.

[hangingon]

What I need from T
I need lots of reassurance, I need to know that she is concerned for me, for my well being, that I am not just another client.
(In hindsight, something I never got from my mom.)
What would really shock me is a phone call out of nowhere from her, just saying she is thinking about me, but thats probably selfish of me lol.

What she does, she gives me hugs, I really like that, I don't think I can fully suck them up just yet, but I like them just the same. I also like that she is very warm in session and that she lets me email her.
I wish I could be more open with her.

[(JD)]

What a nice thread!

I would share with you that it's unethical for your therapist to call you "out of the blue" just to see how you are doing.... unless....

you talk about it in session, and ask the therapist to call and check on you when you both know you aren't doing very well. Some still might not, but this will open the door to those who would like to, but are held back by ethical guidelines.

And for those who would like a hug now and then, have you shared that with your therapist? Sometimes just sharing the desire helps, and other times the T will find another way to help you with those times...and still others? Well, they might just give you a therapeutic hug!

Good wishes.

[Elysium]

My T has called me a couple times when I was going through some difficult times, even without us discussing it in session first. I found it very helpful and comforting to know that even though there are boundaries in therapy, someone still cared enough to be concerned and was pulling for me.

It made a world of difference to know that I mattered enough for my T to take the time and effort to connect with me in this way. I don't think it had anything to do with ethics really, just plain old fashioned being a caring human being.

[googley]

If my T could do anything, I would want her to move around with me for the rest of my life (though most importantly when I go to graduate school in August).

She already responds to phone calls really quickly and follows my jumps during sessions. Most importantly she doesn't get mad at me when my distorted thinking rears its head and I get angry at her. She has also told me that she cares about me and that made me feel cared for.

One nice thing that my T does is emails with me. She is really consistent about it, almost always responding either that night or the next morning. In fact, she emailed with me the entire time she was on maternity leave, when she totally did not have to do that! I try to remember how generous she's been when I'm feeling like she doesn't care -- that she has shown that she does by her actions.

I guess the thing I'd want her to do is to be more emotionally expressive, without me having to ask for it. It doesn't bother me usually, but ocassionally when I'm upset, it really pushes my buttons (spiraling into thinking she doesn't actually care about me, everything's terrible, etc.). So, yeah, that's what I'd like.

Good thread...

[chaotic13]

How about having my therapy sessions on my own lovely, comfortable coach at 2 am so...this ego state has a chance to chat with her directly. Oh... Stopping by once in a while to motivate my 12 to take a shower and do his homework would be good also.

Opps... We are supposed to limit ourselves to just ONE thing....

Just continue to listen to me until I done whatever it is I'm trying to do.

[Brightheart]

I'm out of therapy, but what could T do for me? Well, he'd really be doing it for himself, but he could be happy and content in his life.

What does he still do for me? He's helped me to find my own inner therapist voice...to perceive life in a positive and loving way, to welcome life's challenges, to hope for tomorrow, to live for today, but to never forget yesterday...He still makes me feel filled with love. He's helped me to find that love in me. He's helped me to find my potential.

And he still lets me write him updates.

[sunrise]

I would pick getting a phone call unexpectedly from T, who is not good at all about returning calls or calling you when he says he will. He called me once when he was going to be late arriving for our session, and it was really nice to receive his call.

Nice things that he already does:
--Gives me a hug from time to time at the end of my session
--Is emotional and expressive with me (the opposite of withholding)
--Shares information from his own life

[phoenix7]

Originally Posted by Bether91068

I'm out of therapy, but what could T do for me? Well, he'd really be doing it for himself, but he could be happy and content in his life.

What does he still do for me? He's helped me to find my own inner therapist voice...to perceive life in a positive and loving way, to welcome life's challenges, to hope for tomorrow, to live for today, but to never forget yesterday...He still makes me feel filled with love. He's helped me to find that love in me. He's helped me to find my potential.

And he still lets me write him updates.

WOW !!! thanks for sharing this as you've finihed with him can I have your T pleeeeaaaasssseeeee!