[MINIME]

I have ptsd and am working three hours a week in therapy. I do two hour emdr and then reg therapy. I am starting dbt group to learn skills to help me. The t is a male. I have to have a meeting with him before the group starts jul 2. My body goes into panic mode at the thought of being alone with a man i dont know and its automatic i dont know i am afraid until i start feeling it in my body. I know once i get to know him i will be ok. I called my t and told her that and i needed her to be with me. I know that it wont work anyother way. I will be ok in the group because i wont be alone. Is it to dumb of me' i know what will work and i know what is a reasonable expectation for me is. I know my t will be more then ok with it. She tells me how proud of me she is all the time. Do u think that its ok

[deliquesce]

it's what's ok for you, minime, not what's ok for us.

if your T would be happy to meet with this new-T with you, and this is what will work for you, then great!! i applaud you for asking.

ya gotta do what you gotta do to feel safe. period. good for you for being able to know what that is and being strong enough to ask for it.

[rainbow8]

I agree with the others. If you feel like you need your T there with you, and she is willing, then that's what you should do. You know yourself best.

[MINIME]

I just wondered how much i should be doing. Or if i should push through it. All of these t's work in the same place its a community mental health place. It was hard to get in the group it does 2 group sessions a year 8 clients get selected based on how they have been attending therapy if they skipped apts they have to be hard workers ect. Once ur in this group u get to have your apt with ur t automaticaly always scheduled no more calling and trying to get the day u want. U also get to call a t any time and they return calls every 30 min. So i know that they want to help i just dont want to be odd. I have ptsd a lot of the others r bpd and dont want to be odd. I am afraid i am afraid. Afraid.

[cmac13]

I have always needed a female therapist - I could not be in therapy with a male because of the issues I am dealing with - It has worked out great - go with your gut feeling there are a ton of therapists out there. You should feel comfortable in order to do the work you need to do.

[MINIME]

I think i can work with a male its a new concept for me. I just cant do his screening with him alone cus i dont know him. I guess i am disapointed in me and how much of my ptsd is still big after a year in therapy.

[Mouse_]

Originally Posted by MINIME

I think i can work with a male its a new concept for me. I just cant do his screening with him alone cus i dont know him. I guess i am disapointed in me and how much of my ptsd is still big after a year in therapy.

I think its fine asking for your other T to be with you, and shows you have enought understanding of yourself and what you able to do and what you not, sounds good to me.

[Sannah]

Mini, if you take your T with you, you will be working through this. This is a great plan! You have your fears for a reason and you will be able to work through them, especially with support.

Is being different difficult Mini (a different diagnosis?)

((((((((((((((((minime)))))))))))))))))))) I think it was SO SMART to recognize what kind of support you would need for your appointment, and to ask for it. Not "too needy" at all...good self care. Go, you