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Old Jun 11, 2009, 08:48 AM
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Old Jun 11, 2009, 11:52 AM
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really hard session with t last night.
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Old Jun 11, 2009, 03:12 PM
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well... all that stuff i have been processing about my dr's and attachment.... I took it all in last night - and all everyone's posted advice (minus names). I knew she'd hit me with my email where I let slip i was holding back. Prior to that we'd gotten onto the topic of one of the abusive events.... and i told her, in comparing that to this attachment thing, I'd rather talk about the abuse, it's easier. she was shocked.
It was totally hard. i sobbed thru most of it. she even kept me an extra 45 min @_@ because i was such a wreck. But it is out, t said it was a really good session and she is glad we discussed all of it. But today i feel like I've been run over with a paving truck. Totally flattened, drained, and... somehow... greiving i guess. We determined that there was no need for her to tell any of it to the other dr (the DO) because it would not serve me or her. And T confirmed that she still saw me and her in the same loving light as always. But it was clear that DO is not the right dr for me. A. is financial (which I had never known and wish she'd of just TOLD me back in Nov) and B. is energetically. I need stability from my dr's in their personalities (which i have in 2 of them) because I am still too much of a chamelion to work with people who switch from friend to t to professional dr back to friend all in one apointment.

THe part that still concerns me is that T was very explicit in making sure that she goes the extra mile for me and will see me even when she won't see others because she knows how much i need it. that felt really uncomfortable. My conscious self is very careful of other's needs and lives. My unconscious self still feels that my needs are damned important and should be met!!! It is a difficult contradiction to live with. Made more uncomfortable by the fact that someone so important to me can see it. =(
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Old Jun 11, 2009, 06:33 PM
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Kiya, I was confused about what you talked about with your T--was it attachment or abuse? In either case, it sounds hard but like something you needed to get out. I think it is good you told her you were holding back (due to the lack confidentiality with other providers rule at your clinic, right?) and that that got her attention. Maybe it will help her understand how threatening and scary it can be for a client to not have confidentiality with her therapist.

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We determined that there was no need for her to tell any of it to the other dr (the DO) because it would not serve me or her.
That's good news. What is a DO? Is it Doctor of Osteopathy? What service does a DO provide? I hope you can find someone who is a better fit.

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THe part that still concerns me is that T was very explicit in making sure that she goes the extra mile for me and will see me even when she won't see others because she knows how much i need it. that felt really uncomfortable.
What does that mean? That she would see you more frequently than she typically does with other clients? Different clients have different needs. It is OK to give different services to different clients.

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Old Jun 11, 2009, 09:21 PM
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was it attachment or abuse? I think it is good you told her you were holding back (due to the lack confidentiality with other providers rule at your clinic, right?)
yes. This was the whole thing about the fallout with the DO (dr of osteopathy) and i have been avoiding her. I'd been upset with this situation since nov. But felt i couldn't tell t because of that whole "there are no secrets" thing. I was trying to sidetrack us and not go down this path so talked about past abuse. but when my mind couldn't go further, she pulled out my email and brought us to this topic.

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What is a DO? Is it Doctor of Osteopathy? What service does a DO provide? I hope you can find someone who is a better fit.
Yep. it provided (for me in this case) like body allignment far more gentle than chiropractic. But it's about $215 a session and i had a 75% discount due to income. but no one ever told me that her rates are what keep the doors of the clinic open and the lights on - she can only have so many spots open for ppl like me financially. I totally could have understood that. I mean, i might have been upset internally. but it would have been better than her calling me the day before saying, "I see you're on my schedule, but I really don't need to see you." That to me is just wrong. I was in pain, i needed to see her. I already may have turned down work to see her.... I had no choice but to cancel. then i was so upset and in pain i asked for it back and she was surprised to see me "What's wrong?? Are you really in that much pain?!" No i F------- made it up.
*breathe kiya*
Ahem. Anyway, I am exchanging this new bodywork stuff in instead. It costs nearly the same as my 75% off, the woman purposely works with those abused to assist in healing, and she's not going to run me off. I also don't sense any of the same type of attachment issues in the future. So, all's well that end's well... it was just VERY emotional.

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What does that mean? That she would see you more frequently than she typically does with other clients? Different clients have different needs. It is OK to give different services to different clients.
Sorry - i wasn't very clear. She means that she DOES see me instead of cancelling me like her other clients when something comes up. Like a trip or whatever. Next week she'll be gone on my day. And instead is going to stay an hour later the next day to see me if she can't squeeze me in earlier that day. She has seen me on the weekend or a holiday monday... that type of thing. And she's already added me on to her busy schedule to accomodate me, staying an hour later every wed. She also said most her clients at this point (19 months of working with her) go to every other week by now, and clearly i am not there yet.
So.... i dunno.... i feel a lot of things; damaged goods, a burden to her, like i'm taxing her. I know she has explained that she does this because she wants to and because it is her decision. It just feels uncomfortable. AND she sees me for free (has been for 13 months) because i can't even afford the weekly $36 for those with limited income.
I know - i need to shut up and stop complaining.
T also mentioned how she knows that often it is said that multiples need to be worked with daily, and how she just can't do it. I tried to scruntch my face up to say "OMG can you imagine how awful that would be, good thing I'd never ever think to even suggest it, huh?!"
life sure can get complicated.
I spent a lot of time in bed today trying to just NOT think. it just made me restless.
anyway... thanks for reading. The responses help me to feel connected and less crazy.
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Old Jun 16, 2009, 07:26 PM
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Now I am still avoiding the DO - in my dreams! I've have two (one just now during a nap) where I see DO and T and T seems not to see me, DO looks frosty eyes at me, and I scurry away and try to not run into her again. This morning's dream T will have a field day with. I was stuck in the clinic's bathroom with an over filling tolit (the part AFTER it flushes and is refilling) that flooded the room right up to the tip of my nose. When i got out, T was nowhere to be found, my mom was in the kitching chirping non-sensicles at me, and the DO was in the room where I had left my bag and I refused to go in there until she left.
Brain - what are you doing to me?!
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