I broke my T

My T went on vacation last week. She gave me this little angel from her office.

I broke it.

Her head broke right off because she fell from my nightstand.

I tried to glue it back on. Didn't work.

I'm very upset. Because I feel like i broke my T's head off. And what if she's mad. And what if she doesn't trust me anymore. And what if she never lends me anything again.

Mistakes happen, and I'm sure she knows that. Have you tried super glue? That stuff usually holds pretty well. You have to hold it in place for about a minute, but it should stay after that.

(((((((((((((((krazibean)))))))))))))))))!!

Yikes! I have something of my T's that is very important to him and I am always worried I will break it...I've tried to give it back and he's like "you keep it for right now".

But you know what? If I broke it, and it was an accident, I know he would understand. I have kids and when they break something of mine accidentally, even something really important, I don't get angry at them, because I know it was an accident and they feel bad. I give them a hug and tell them it's no big deal, because THEY are way more important than any "thing". I am sure your T feels the same way.

Lots of . It will be okay.

(((Krazibean)))

How yucky to have the feeling that you've broken your t's head off, and that you will be punished somehow for doing it. It sounds like the feeling is coming from some very young part of you.

Please remind that little part of you that the angel is just a symbol of your t and of the connection you share. Both your t and your connection with her are still very strong and secure! Also, t knows that people make mistakes. It's all a part of being human. So try not to feel bad or afraid of the consequences. I'll bet she'll understand.

Oh I so understand this feeling. My T gave me a gift/transitional object. It was a mini water globe that said "You make everything sweeter". Somehow the globe got broken, and the water/glitter was out. I was CRUSHED. I felt like it meant out relationship/connection was broken too.
It was a gift to keep, and I never did tell her we broke it on accident. It just hurt so much that I did accidently. But I know she would have understood.
I have given my T a transitional object that she carries. Her son often plays with it. She worries he may break it or lose it. He might. It would probably hurt some if he did. Almost like *I* would be broken/lost. But I have to remember... Accidents happen...

I am sorry you broke it, I am sure you are very disappointed. Can you glue it back together? That might make you feel better. I am sure your T will understand. I promise you that she will not be mad and she will continue to trust you.

Sounds like a good topic for your next session, you should tell her how upset it made you feel to break it. She always knows how to make you feel better.

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