In crisis, where are you T

I had a big fight with my mom. She took my car away and told me to get out. I said no. She was in very intense anger and she grabbed the phone and said she was calling the police to get me out. She realized how irrational she was and put the phone down. She said I no longer have a mother. So I went outside and took a walk. I called T. While i was on the phone, i saw an ambulance driving up my street. I started crying because I thought she called because i threatened to kill myself sarcastically. T said she couldn't believe my mom did that. She actually said, "If I was nearby I would seriously come pick you up. But i'm about an hour away from where you are." We decided that i needed to get someone to come get me. She told me to call her to tell her what happened. We hung up. Then I saw the ambulance at another house. I realized it wasn't for me. I FELT SO STUPID. I feel like i exaggerated the situation to T. So i sent T a text that said, "i'm so sorry, the ambulance wasn't mine. please don't worry, ill call you later."

My mom left the house and locked me out. I went in through the garage and went to sleep. (it was like 3pm) T called me around 4:30 and left a message saying she was checking to see if things were OK. I diddn't answer cause i was sleeping.

Now, i'm stuck in my room. Isolated. with no car. I have to go to work tomorrow. My mom is ignoring me. I havent spoken to an acutal human being all day. I've called T asking for her to call me because i'm depressed and sleeping all day and i don't know how to get myself out of this situation. I haven't heard from her and it's almost 9 and i'm afraid I won't tonight. I feel bad because its the weekend but i feel like calling again. I don't know what to do next. I don't have enough money to move out and pay for school, buy a car, etc. Plus i don't even know how to do that. To top it all off, my birthday was yesterday. Happy 21st to me.

I need you T

(((((((((((krazibean)))))))))))))))

Happy belated 21st.

I wish I had a good suggestion for you, but I hope your T calls you back sooner rather than later.

Krazibean,
It doesn't sound like a very nice birthday at all. (((Many hugs)))

Can you drag yourself out of your bed and get a shower? Sometimes just forcing yourself to get up and moving can get things moving in the right direction. Even if you don't know where that is at the moment.

Kraibean, Not sure when your 21st is, but happy birthday!

Yes living at home is difficult, bet your be glad when you can become independent.

Happy 21 birthday! You should be at the club dancing and having your first legal drink! Hugs to you!!!!!

I hope you hear from your T soon

Happy 21st Maybe you can go out and have a celebration when you feel better?

((((((((((Krazibean))))))))))

Those mothers are sure tricky
I'm sorry to hear you haven't heard back from your T yet... but the fact that she offered to come pick you up, and called you back earlier tells me that she cares a great deal for you. Maybe just try and keep that in the back of your mind until you do speak with her again.
As for your mother... I wish I had something to offer. I too have my fair share of mother issues, and i'll be 21 in a month. Feel free to PM if you ever want/need to chat about anything.
Happy belated, hope things turn around for you soon
Jacq

Is it possible for your T to speak to the 2 of you and try to get something worked out at least temporarily?

If not, is it possible for you to patch things up with your mom. Could you bring yourself to apologize, even if it was not your fault?

I'm new so others here may know more of the relationship with your mom. If I'm way off base, just ignore me.

Whatever happens, I'm sure it will work out for you. Take Care!

Belated Happy Birthday! Next one will be super!

Happy birthday, Krazibean.

I am glad to hear that you are not on the street and that you at least can still sleep in your mom's house. What is up with the car? Do you own it or does your mom? Do you know why your mom became so angry and doesn't want you to be in her house or use the car anymore?

When you are feeling better and things have calmed down, can you think about a step by step plan to becoming independent? If you moved out and moved very close to your school, could that eliminate the need for a car too? How much longer do you have in school? Maybe your T can help you establish priorities and come up with a gradual plan towards independence. If you are working towards that, and check little steps off as you achieve them, it could be empowering. If your mom doesn't want you living with her, it might also reassure her that you are taking active steps to transition towards independence.

If your mom gets so mad again, can you try not to respond with anger and threats to kill yourself? Can you try to be calm and ask your mom why she is so angry? If she can tell you what is bothering her so much, maybe you can find a way to help solve the problem.

I am glad your T was so responsive to you in this crisis. When do you see her again?