New t/schema therapy

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I think that just leaving a message saying "I am canceling my appointments for this week" is a fine idea. And I'm glad that you are feeling more comfortable with telling her that her style just isn't working for you...actually, I think that is a great way to put it. It's honest, but not "mean". I think you could walk away and feel good about how you handled everything.

I think you will like one of the Ts you meet this week And if you don't, remember how many Ts there are in your area...the right one IS out there

Thanks, Tree
I am going to do that tomorrow. Sometimes when I have something like this to do I conviently "forget" about it. It happens to me way too often. I WILL remember to make this call and leave the message and not avoid it. Already Im working to not avoid.......deep breath....

That sounds like a good way to put it, and very truthful too.

If you have a Monday appointment, you better call soon to cancel! Don't you have to pay for the appointment if you cancel with less than 24 hours notice? (All the Ts I've encountered in my area have that rule. I've only had to do it once--with my daughter's T.)

Ha ha, maybe we should make your search for a new T into a reality show!

I said on the message that I am leaving a msg for the sectretaries that I am cancelling monday at 10 and I have to cancel thurday too. That was it. I dont know if she will charge me. I have never cancelled an appt like this. I have cancelled thurs appts earlier in the week. Still, I am very surprised that she has not said anything about me cancelling appt after appt. Weird. Maybe another red flag about her. I dont know.

And I think it would be a great reality show! I could ask the t's all of the questions on my list and have my laptop in my hands to post on PC. Then my friends on PC would be in the boardroom with me! I think this could work! They would be judged on warmth, caring, orientation, and if they can guess my diagnosis. Hey- whichever t can guess my diagnosis in the shortest amount of time!

I think we are onto something here..........

For some reason I must feel rushed. That I dont have a lot of time. But it isnt going to happen quickly and if I keep that in mind I'll feel better.

I liked this one on the phone, but its good I posted about that comment here. I will definitely clarify that with her. That I need to do the here and now, but I want the focus on my therapy to be stuff from my past and dealing with trauma. I have to see what she says. She did say she works on how triggers affect my life today. But I dont want to be pulled right back into today's life. I think, but maybe I am wrong, if I mention schema therapy and ego states therapy I might get a good feel for if she can do something besides CBT. What do you think?

This interview is tomorrow at 10!

BlueMoon, good luck with the first interview tomorrow!

My advice - ask what kind of therapy that T practices, and then you could say that you've read about therapies like schema and ego states, and they really intrigue you and sound like a good fit to you - the T may point out techniques that she uses that are very similar, or the T may say she doesn't agree with those theories at all. Either way, it helps you make your decision. But I wouldn't cross a T off the list only because she doesn't follow schema or ego states - I think it's gotta be more open than that. My T doesn't practice those, but she uses concepts that are similar to both of those therapies.

The most important thing is how you feel with the T. Hopefully, you will click with someone. When I saw a T a few years ago, I knew right away that it wasn't a good fit. But I didn't want to tell that to her face, so I went ahead and scheduled another appointment, and then called and canceled it later. That's okay to do, too - you're the one calling the shots! With my T now, I pretty much knew after the first session that it would be good.

Thanks Dream. I imagine it will be OK. I am trying to be calm. I am going to make my outline tonight from my 1000 pages of notes

Would it be OK if you come with me and I'll let you talk.....The truth is I have posted and read so much here that it all will come out of my mouth. I will keep that in mind not to cross a t off my list. I will only cross her off if she seems opposed to this kind of therapy. Although your t doesnt specifically practice those techniques, from what you have posted, she sounds very very good and someone I would see. So....that tells me a lot.

I did that with the abrupt t on the phone. I made the appt and then called her machine an hour later to cancel it. She works with the t I am interviewing on tues. Hmmmm....wonder if she will tell her she talked to me on the phone.

Im looking forward to it.....I think.....

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My T doesn't practice those techniques either, at least not in a formal way. But he is wonderful He is the first therapist I've had, so I didn't really know what I was looking for when I first went to see him....but I did like him, and felt like he was someone I could connect with. I got REALLY lucky, because I didn't know to ask about CBT (which I don't think I would like) or ANYTHING. You are so well-prepared and have such good ideas about what you want.

Good luck tomorrow!

i crossquoted you from the other thread:
you know, if you really hit it off with today's t then i think it's perfectly alright to cancel the other appointments and just schedule another with her for this week. as long as you can give the others' some notice i think they'd be fine with it. i think if you meet one you really like then you don't need to meet with them all and can just get started. you've really done your homework blue!

Did you really? LOL! What thread was this from? How funny! I have thought of doing that but never did.

I wonder if I really like tomorrows 9am t that I would cancel the others and reserve the insurance money so I make it to the end of the year...but also save myself some grief. Not sure what to do. I guess I wont know until I meet her, but I will post about her, for sure

blue, i did pray for you again last night. i'll post more later tonight. i'm about to leave for school.