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Sep 22, 2009, 05:05 PM
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CONNECT disconnect CONNECT disconnect CONNECT disconnect
This describes my sessions since T's return from vacation. Last week we had such a beautiful session. We were in sync, dovetailed, so together. Yesterday BLAH BLAM BLAP--he didn't get it! I left upset. I called and we spoke while I was still in the car and HE STILL DIDN'T GET IT. I cried my eyes out. I called again and told him on his voicemail that he was such a jerk sometimes. ARGHHHHHHHHH. Last night he finally called back and apologized. HE NEVER DID THIS BEFORE. I really love him so much. He is my rock. I am a little excited abouot this new aspect of my therapy. I feel like I am at a point in my therapy where I can begin to fill my life with new and positive experience. We've cleared the slate so to speak, so let's bring it on! (even tho I told T I don't want any new experience). It's like holding a bag of sweet and sour candy. 
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Sep 22, 2009, 09:43 PM
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((((((((((((((((Miss C)))))))))))))))))
It feels SO GOOD to be heard and to reconnect after those times of disconnection. I'm so glad he called and apologized. Good T  
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Sep 22, 2009, 09:56 PM
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Miss C- It truly is amazing to me how close you are to t that you can call his voicemail and tell him he is a jerk sometimes!
It is wonderful that you are excited about this new chapter. He really sounds like a very secure rock
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Sep 22, 2009, 09:57 PM
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Quote:
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Sep 22, 2009, 10:39 PM
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Quote:
 (My T has tried to get me to talk about positive stuff before, and I'm like, what, we can do that in therapy?  )
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#6
Sep 23, 2009, 08:22 AM
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Miss C,
I experience the "connect, disconnect, connect, disconnect" thing also with my t. Like your t, mine is good about stepping up to the plate and talking about what's causing the disconnect and apologizing if it's due to something she said or did. I'm glad you have open enough communication that you can tell your t when he's being a jerk. |
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Sep 23, 2009, 11:46 PM
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Miss, I am proud of you for calling him, telling him how this felt for you, and telling him what you need. The fact is that they are actually human (sort of) and sometimes they just won't get it. It's part of the relationship and just like any relationship, there are misunderstandings, grouchiness, disconnects, and frustrations. The best part? You are able to work it out and connect. T is still there for you.
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"The only people for me are the mad ones. The ones who are mad to love, mad to talk, mad to be saved; the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow Roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars." -- Jack Kerouac |
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Sep 24, 2009, 09:41 AM
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MissC, good for you for working it out with T, wow! You know that will carry over into your other relationships, and what an amazing feeling that must be!
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