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#26
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It's a feeling you feel in this moment because of this moment. So I would say, yes, enjoying the feelings of pleasant conversation with your friends.
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I think for me, when I feel big BAD feelings that are out of proportion to what is going on around me, those are "old" feelings. Like, if H says something to me that sounds a little impatient, if I go to a place of "H hates me, he's angry at me, he wishes I would go away", those are definitely OLD feelings. H is thinking, "wow, I am busy, I wish treehouse stop chatting at me" and I am thinking "H wishes he never met me". When I can step back and look at that (something I am getting better at after all of this therapy!), I can see that my feelings are totally out of proportion to the situation I am in. And I can either rein myself in, or I know I need to work on that issue ("people wish I had never been born") with T some more. Does that make sense? As for ftt - I hope you can let those worries go. A good therapist will KNOW that you are bringing things from the past into your relationship with her, and she will be able to help you work through that. I have pulled away from T SO many times, SURE that it is something he is doing...and he has been patient, and solid, and stable, and has let me take the time that I need to sort it out and let him back in. And then we do it again, and again, and again. And it's okay. And if ftt is the good T that she seems like, it will be okay with her too. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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![]() When I read this letter tomorrow I really wonder where it will take my therapy. I have a feeling this could take it into a deeper direction b/c of everything that is in there. Im s little scared...but anticipating in a positive way, too. |
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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![]() She actually was inconsistant. So...she didnt disappoint me ![]() Talk to me about Gestalt Therapy. I remember this being popular when I was a teenager. How does it relate to trauma and ED? |
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I guess I can see it beneficial to ED because you would work out then and there why you need to control your eating (of course not with just one try!). With the trauma it would help you to just work out what is affecting you today because you would work from the present backwards. This could help a person to not get dragged down too much by focusing too much on the past. Also, working on the present like this helps you to stay more solution focused. I just know that it is a really good way to live. I say a way to live because I learned how to be present every single moment of my life now. Also, it enabled me to be very calm because when you do this therapy you learn to attend to how you are doing at the very moment. This makes you aware of any nervousness or agitation and when you follow through, you have to deal with it and work it out so that you can let it go.
This is what codependents do (and I'm not calling you this). Codependents stay with alcoholics because if they can just make everything right with this man it will make up for what they suffered with their alcoholic parent. If I remember correctly, this is a wish of the child, to fix everything. Maybe you just wanted to fix everything with dt because then it would right everything with your mom???????
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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![]() This feels really, really hard. My mother will never love me and the people I turn into my mother wont either. It hurts. |
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![]() ![]() ![]() My mother will never be the mother that I want either. I have gotten past this however. I have other people in my life who are wonderful..........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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