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crystalrose · Oct 19, 2009, 11:00 PM

i need to see T and i had an appt with her tomorrow and she cancelled because she got called in to work somewhere else. I feel so sad and angry. Its like our appt means nothing to her.

Oct 20, 2009, 01:07 AM

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i'm so sorry t had to cancel. were you able to reschedule with her for this week?

crystalrose · Oct 20, 2009, 03:25 AM

haven't actually got to talk to T yet. So haven't rescheduled it yet. It was a msg on my voice mail that cancelled the appt. She said she would call me instead of the appt which is unfair and not the same. Oh well i do have pdoc appt on thursday so i do have some support this week. But it just seems to me that T doesn't care anymore about me.

Oct 20, 2009, 05:31 AM

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I'm sorry she canceled...it's so hard when we're looking forward to "our" hour with T, and it gets taken away for some reason. Even thought it FEELS personal, it sounds like it was out of T's control...I bet she didn't like calling to cancel at all.

I hope you are able to find another time to meet with her when you talk to her.

crystalrose · Oct 20, 2009, 07:16 AM

thanks Tree. Trying not to take it personal. I think its because i really need to see her that it upset me a bit. Might not have to wait to much til i see her. Hopefully T rings me up and makes an appt with me.

turquoisesea · Oct 20, 2009, 12:26 PM

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crystalrose · Oct 21, 2009, 06:42 AM

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T didn't call me! I'm so upset about this. She obviously doesn't care. >_< can't deal with this.

crystalrose · Oct 21, 2009, 06:45 AM

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rainydaygirl420 · Oct 21, 2009, 08:38 AM

That sucks, but on the other hand you arent her only client so try not to take it personally.

Oct 21, 2009, 09:21 AM

Things happen. Just because she didn't call doesn't mean she doesn't care. That's your thinking, not hers.

taylor43 · Oct 21, 2009, 04:50 PM

I hope she calls you it's upsetting when they do not call and you just need to vent then turned down after they phone to cancle. Your feelings are valid and real share it with your t let her know how it felt for you not to hear from her. Things happen in life and therapists are human to however you need for you take care of the emotions you have.

Oct 21, 2009, 05:28 PM

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I'm sorry she didn't call! It hurts when we are looking forward to hearing from T and then they don't call, no matter what the reason is. This summer, my T had to go to a friend's fathers funeral, and cancelled my appointment, and I did feel sad and hurt. I wanted to beat myself up for feeling like that...I mean, I knew it was completely out of his control and it wasn't personal at all...but T said that my feelings are ALWAYS okay. So are yours.

Can you let yourself call T to touch base??

crystalrose · Oct 21, 2009, 05:54 PM

i don't care anymore it hurts too much to care.

rainbow8 · Oct 21, 2009, 06:38 PM

crystalrose--

crystalrose · Oct 22, 2009, 02:24 AM

she still hasn't called so obviously she really doesn't care. I'm thinking of sending her a text but don't know what to write. 'Hey T its really *****y of you to cancel my appt and then never call me. Obviously you don't care.' What do you think of that.

05:06 AM

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i am so sorry t didn't call when she said she would. i would be upset too. maybe a text like "what happened? i thought you said you were going to call."

phoenix7 · Oct 22, 2009, 05:16 AM

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My T cancelled and I felt abandoned too especially as it was the 2nd time in a row - it made me feel worthless....... she didnt call me to rearrange either - which seeemed to confirm my worthlessness - so i made an appt - i rang and made an appt so i could ask what happened and tell her how hurt i felt -

well at the appt she said she was sorry it had been an emergency - she gave brief details and i wont say them here cos i dont want to trigger anyone....

I realised it wa my own insecurity that was hurting me not T - that T never meant to hurt me - that life gets in the way somtimes and things happen beyond our control....

I am sorry you are feeling so bad - can you text T and say when wil our next appt be?

take care P7

peaches100 · Oct 22, 2009, 08:03 AM

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I'm so sorry you haven't heard back from your t yet. I find it extremely hard to cope when my t doesn't reply. I'm trying to get used to it, realizing she's busy. But it's still hard. For me, it triggers feelings that go back to my childhood of feeling unimportant and uncared about. So i understand feeling hurt about it. Did you leave a followup message asking what happened? Or are you going to wait until you see or hear from her to find out why she didn't call? Maybe there is some emergency. I'm sure there is some explanation and that she still cares about you!

Oct 22, 2009, 09:23 AM

I arrange all my appointments through my therapist's secretary, so I don't have to deal with my tdoc not setting up my appointments. That's a plus, but I know not every therapist has a secretary.

You have to remember, you therapist has a whole other life outside of you. I don't mean that to sound harsh, but sometimes we forget that and take things personally when they aren't at all meant to be personal. Text her and simply say, "Call me so we can set up an appointment." I know you think she doesn't care, but that just isn't based in reality. She'll get back to you as soon as she can sit still for a minute.

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