[thunderbear]

My new psychologist/psychatrist is a talker. My old one was a writer. The old one did'nt really ask much other than "How did that make you feel'. I have noticed my new one wants details on things we talk about. Whether it's about what I done over the week or the bad things. Which is great cause I know he is listening to me, but I'm not really all that comfortable talking to men about certain things. I know he won't judge me or think bad of me but still. I have never really gone into great detail about those things with anyone. But I know I need to so I can be helped. I get really paniky talking about the certain things and I hate the way it makes me feel. And that feeling will stick with me for days afterward. I remember one particular session with my old doctor and I had a full blown panic attack right there in her office and pretty much slept all day afterwards. I hate that. I don't know if this is anormal part of therpy or what. I am starting to get really nervous about the talk therapy I am starting with him Tuesday. I'm afraid my reluctance will cause me to not be totally honest with doc. And I want to be.

thunderbear

Did you choose this therapist? It sounds like you may not be totally comfortable with a male T.

Remember that you are in control. Just because your T asks you a question doesn't mean you have to answer it if you're not ready or if you feel uncomfortable. It's great that your new T wants to know more details to help you more, but don't feel pressured to provide any details yet that you don't want to discuss - take it at your own pace. And if you want to be totally honest with T, simply tell him that you're not yet comfortable enough to talk about a certain subject - then maybe you and T can discuss what might make you more comfortable. Good luck!

[thunderbear]

Originally Posted by dreamseeker9

thunderbear

Did you choose this therapist? It sounds like you may not be totally comfortable with a male T.

Remember that you are in control. Just because your T asks you a question doesn't mean you have to answer it if you're not ready or if you feel uncomfortable. It's great that your new T wants to know more details to help you more, but don't feel pressured to provide any details yet that you don't want to discuss - take it at your own pace. And if you want to be totally honest with T, simply tell him that you're not yet comfortable enough to talk about a certain subject - then maybe you and T can discuss what might make you more comfortable. Good luck!

No I did'nt get to choose him. He is only one of four in my area that accepts my insurance. And the other three were filled up until next year because one of the popular psychatrists was retiring. I like this doctor. It's just I have never had a male psychiatrist before.

I'm glad you like him, that's the first step! Have you discussed with him that you've never had a male T before, so some things are uncomfortable for you to discuss with him?