[MINIME]

Im in this group at therapy. I have a reg therapist an emdr therapist and this group therapist. SO yesterday he (the group T) brings in a "co leader" whos not a therapist so much but a person who does group work and such. Ok so here is the problem. LOL I think he smells so nice. I like the way he talks and thinks and he has actiual feelings and talks about them. I have never had this issue. I like him. LOL
He may be gay thats what everyone in the group is saying but i dont think so. LOL This is so funny to me. Cus it is. WHo would ever know.
I know there are rules and stuff but he is not an actual therapist and well i can wait.

I think that this issue is so funny cus who would have thought I would ever have this interesting problem. He smells of soap and gum...lol

[Sannah]

wow...a normal girl...gee...i wonder what that must feel like...i'm so impressed!!!!! (and happy for you!)

stumpy
who is wondering that if dissociation doesn't exist then who are all those peeps wandering around in the head and why are they arguing over what to have for dinner??????

[googley]

Do you have butterflies in your stomach? I get those.

[MINIME]

I looked for a ring and nope. LOL Im sure this will go no where its just interesting to me that I had this reaction. I have been so traumatized by men as a child that I thought all these things about men. I never would get married never wanted a boyfriend never wanted a relationship. Slowly over the last year my mind has been healing and opening and I can see myself someday being married. Weird. I never ever thought this. So I called my reg T and told her this is very confidental but to find out where this kinda of man comes from. If there are more and where they are..lol now I think about leaving that message and feel stupid but hey where are they all?

[peaches100]

Hi Minime,

I'm glad you've had an opportunity to begin getting to know a man who doesn't fit your usual view of men. It is pretty rare for a man to be very open and verbal about his feelings.

Last week, I went to the 1st of 6 classes on being a "highly sensitive person." It's based on the profile of the highly sensitive person (hsp) in Elaine Aron's books. Anyway, the cofacilitator is a man who said he also is a hsp. It was really kind of amazing for me to witness his speech and behavior. It was very different from the macho man type image that many guys have. In fact, later that evening after the class, i was still thinking about it, and trying to come up with a word to describe him. I finally settled on the word "gentle." He was gentle and soft spoken. He did not strike me as gay.

[darkrunner]

Minime!!!

It is great to hear this! Sounds like wonderful healing has taken place.
How awesome for you to be able to take a step back and appreciate all the hard work you've done, and how far you've come.

This is refreshing, because sometimes it seems that because I'm so INSIDE the therapeutic process it is hard to recognize any progress.

[BlueMoon6]

Hi Minime! This gave me such a smile. I am SO incredibly prone to crushes at the drop of a hat. At the drop of anything. Soap and gum, huh?

Congrats on being one of the "normals" LOL! Im still trying to get into THAT club!

Originally Posted by Minime

If there are more and where they are..lol now I think about leaving that message and feel stupid but hey where are they all?

Oh, Minime...they are around....truly....if you are looking for dating advice there is LOTS of it out there, too

Originally Posted by MINIME

So I called my reg T and told her this is very confidental but to find out where this kinda of man comes from. If there are more and where they are..lol now I think about leaving that message and feel stupid but hey where are they all?

you are too cute mini and i'm so glad that you are finding that there are some good men out there after all. maybe someone has them in their stockroom and they are just on backorder. i think i'm going to place my order now for one.

[BlueMoon6]

Originally Posted by bloom3

you are too cute mini and i'm so glad that you are finding that there are some good men out there after all. maybe someone has them in their stockroom and they are just on backorder. i think i'm going to place my order now for one.

Can we send one back if its is damaged? JUST KIDDING!

[MINIME]

lol yeah i will ask

[MINIME]

so OK I I keep thinking about him. He is not a Therapist he is not my therapist he is single and he so sensative and beautul and he smells so good I ws thinking of the smell of soap and gum but its more like sunshine and trees. SO I think about him alot and wonder what he is feeling and what his beautiful little brain is thinking and if he is warm not to cold and what he had for dinner.
I know that this is just a crush and it will pass but I am so enjoying being normal and healing.

[MINIME]

OK so thanks for the replies and when my reg T tells me where these men come from..or i will just ask this guy himself lol then I iwll let you all know. Can u imagine having a husband and being home and sitting in the couch an dtalking about how he felt about things andhow his mind is working and deep thinkgs not like just scratching their butts and spitting and stuff..lol jk but I would love to have a husband that enjoys deep conversations and beauty in nature and smells of good things (he told me he likes a certan smell of rootbeer floats it makes him feel happy) I mean heck. I know that probably it wont go anywhere but its such a wonderful start, Oh love...where have you been. I feel like an after school special.
Lady traumatized by men mother of three orphans finds love over the smell of rootbeer floats...awwwwwww get the kleenex lol

[Sannah]

Mini, you are so adorable...........

[MINIME]

Lets hope he thinks so too....

[MINIME]

LOl Im such a goof ball.

[chaotic13]

Minime,

I say enjoy feeling "normal".

As long as you can stay grounded in the reality that this guy no matter how nice and available he seems, he is likely really not AVAILIBLE to group members, I say explore and enjoy the emotions that surface. You can likely learn a lot about what traits you like and dislike in a partner this way. Maybe journal about what you find most interesting about him (his physical appearence, if how he makes eye contact, listens, his words seem consistent with the energy he is emitting, etc..) I think you can learn a lot from what you are experiencing without actually trying to get involved with him.

I will also bet that... now that you KNOW men like this exist...you will likely begin seeing more and more of them popping up in your life. Often just outside of your immediate friends and family. I firmly believe that once we become open and aware of things we like and want more of...those things present themselves more often. But you have to be open to seeing them. For example if you are somewhere and see a guy that reminds you of this man, make it a point to just say hello or send him a quick smile. Not saying for you to jump on the next guy that passes you on the street. I'm just suggesting that you be open to encountering more nice guys. You may be in for some pleasant suprises.

[MINIME]

Ok so more norrmalness. Ok so Maybethis will get moved to a diff forum who knows. But the other day there were these tree power line cutters outside my house. Then there was a fire and this really cute guy ran with the fire thingy and put it out and then he came back and was dancing over his accomplishment. My heart filled with such joy to see such real human emotion and joy and I wanted to run outside and aks him if he wanted some cofee or a sandwich or if he had clothes he needed me to wash. I also wondered if he smelled good. LOL? Is that attraction? I dont know?

MInime,

You are sooooo cute! I wish I had a cute guy putting out my fire (on my electric lines.)