[crystalrose]

It is complete BS.
My old T is so inconsistant that I just wish I never saw her.
Well she said that she thinks she should have referred me straight away.
I hate psychotherapy.
It is a giant set up.
It F**** up your mind, your life, all your schedule has to revolve around whether you can see T or not.
Then for what, so when they get sick of you or have limits or don't wanna help, wanna terminate you, get frustrated with you they can just get rid of you to someone else like a ball being thrown from person to person.
There is no control and the power difference is so large and not able to be decreased.
My old T is meant to be helping me process the termination however she is not doing anything to help.
She has betrayed me and taken advantage of my trust and commitment to treatment.
I really hate therapy so much....!!!!

[sittingatwatersedge]

Crystalrose........ I'm sorry you're hurting.
I've only known the one T, so I can't offer you much except for hugs if those are OK.

[winterbaby]

I'm sorry too and I've had many of the same thoughts as you. It's hard.

[peaches100]

Crystalrose,

Transitions to a new t are always hard! It sounds like your old t may not be doing enough to help you make a change to a new t.

I don't know how helpful it was to tell you she wished she had referred you to someone else at the beginning. That's her own hindsight. It doesn't do anything to build you up now. In fact, I wonder if that statement has made you feel kind of rejected/abandoned?

If she is going to refer you, she needs to provide the support you need to make the transition. If she has not done so already, she should tell you why she feels she needs to refer you. And she absolutely needs to help you process the termination -- not just cut things off without any closure. It sounds like her decision to refer you has caused alot of painful feelings for you. You should have an opportunity to discuss all of that with her too.

Please tell her that you need support from her to make the transition to a new t. Also, let her know you feel hurt about the termination and need to talk about your feelings.

It seems like your t should know you need these things, but sometimes you have to spell it out.

[WePow]

wow - that is intense pain to have to process through.... very sorry you are in such pain! We hope that you are able to get the help you need that will actually HELP you and not add harm. And I agree with peaches that it may be good to let her know the transition is causing additional harm.