how old are you? and how old is your T?

I've had Ts older and younger than I am. My last T was only 2 yearsolder than me, but I felt like she was much older. We're both past middle-age so it would be pretty hard to have a T older than I am.

New T is around 46 and I am a lot older--more than 10 years, but she has a child in college so we can relate. My kids are a little older, but I think it's okay. I feel a lot younger than I am so I don't think it matters to me.

Ripley, that's what i meant. my emotional age is younger.

Mid 30's. T is mid 50's.

I'm 31. I have no idea how old my t is. I think me must be 40 at least... I wouldn't be terribly surprised if he was getting close to 50. I guess, but I have no idea, I suck at guessing age, and I'm not going to ask him.

He feels... Like a father figure, yes, but also like a peer. I typically go out with guys who are older than me (like 10 or 15 years) and he really didn't seem to think anything was a problem when I was going out with a guy who was 15 years older. In fact... I think he came to see me more as a peer then... I suspect he has a younger wife (they had a baby 2 years back).

With females I prefer them to be much close to my age. Older sister type of transference rather than mother type transference works much better. I think my t in the US was younger than me... That was kind of odd. It wasn't as intense but then she was just training, too. It was okay, I guess. But not my pick.

I'm 38, my T is mid-40s I think.

I'm 29, T is 37 or 38. Perfect age difference. I see other people in the practice all the time, and think --i'm so lucky to have my T. One of the reasons is b/c of the age of other T's...Definitely important. I couldn't handle a mother figure i don't think...since i kind have mother issues...I look at T and think about how i want to be like her when i'm older.

me = 50
her = almost 66
been seeing her for 18 years - important that she is older. need someone who is maternal...

I already replied briefly, but I was in a hurry so I'm back. When I was in college, obviously my t was older than me. He was actually a good father figure which I guess I needed at the time as I was alone, very far from family and needed that feeling of strength. My current t and I are closer to the same age - maybe 10 years apart. He feels more my contemporary. That's important because when we talk about marriage, I know he understands. When we talk about kids, I know he understands. When we talk about careers, I know he understands. That's really important at this point in my life.

I'm 50. My T is 54-55. This has worked really well for me. I like that T and I are fairly similar in age so he has been through a lot of the life stages that I am going through (e.g. right now we are both grappling with end of life issues for our parents; other examples are marriage, divorce). I think if I had a T who was only 30, she wouldn't really know and get my issues because of her stage in life.

I am almost 34 and he is almost 46...our b-days are two days apart. His age came up in another conversation so he told me how old he was, and he noticed my b-day on a form I filled out and commented on our b-days being so close, so I asked him when his was. I don't know anyone else whose b-day is so close to mine, so I think it is pretty cool.

And I think 12 years older is about perfect for me. I saw a woman T for a bit and she was in her 40s as well, so I guess that age just works for me.

when we in that therapy bubble its more a case of how old am I? The real age doesn't matter.

I'm in my late 20s and I think my T is in her 50s.

Me: 46 Her: 61

I'm out of therapy, but I am older than my former therapist. I'm 41 and think that he is around 35, give or take a year or so. It worked beautifully for me.

T is about 15 years older than me. My previous Ts have been 30 or 40 years older. I was worried at first, given current Ts age, that he wouldnt understand my problems, but he is by far the best T I have had. He is totally on my wavelength. The older Ts have never quite understood me. BUt I guess its about the connection, not the age of T

I'm 50. T is 45. He's relates well with me.

I'm 46, T is 55. I like that she is older but not too much older.

I'm 36 and T is 47, it works perfectly fine for me. Makes it hard for her to be like a friend or mother lol. Well I do have a friend who is 48, so I take that back but she is definitely somewhere in between so no major transference for me, at least not yet, after this first year of seeing her

I'm close to fifty, he's four or so years older.

But in therapy world, he's a parent figure, and I've always treated him as if he were much older.

I look back now and am disconcerted how much younger he was when we started than I am today. And likely with no more idea of what to do than I have now.

I think I'd have trouble with a therapist or doctor I perceived as younger. But my perception of age is a bit fuzzy at times.

I'm 42,T is 38.

I'm nearing 40, and my T is in her late 60s or early 70s - I was surprised that she was older than my parents (not by much though I don't think) as her outlook is younger - or ageless is probably a better description. She reminds me of a family member, sadly now dead, who was always open to new experiences and exuded an air of calm and wisdom. I've found that very helpful - having to cope with lots of new, challenging situations lately, it has been very soothing to have somewhere I feel cared for and I don't have to pretend to be in control all the time. I saw a psychologist for a while where I used to live who was younger than me and while I thought she was good, at times it seemed more of an intellectual relationship - we would discusss different approaches, how they might apply and so on - rather than feeling cared for, but I did have that with the psychiatric nurse I saw so it worked pretty well. I prefer what I have now though, I think, though I still miss my psychiatric nurse - but what I have now suits me well.

It's interesting to see what suits everyone, and why.

I don't know my T's exact age but I think she is no more than 5 years older than me. Maybe, we are the same age. Works great for me. I don't want no mother or authority figures. I wanted someone who is what I want to be one day - an organic, well-balanced, able person.

I am almost 29 and my Domestic Violence T is in her mid to late 40s. My SA T is around my age, although I am not for sure. And my ED T is in her late 30s early 40s. I have had other Ts who were much older or younger than me. I did not connect as well with them. It helps that one of my current Ts has been in a similar abuse situation.

I'm 34, my T/Pnurse is 60. I knew her age before she ever mentioned it because I looked up her license and birthdate is on the license info.

Her daughter is 34. Sometimes I wish my mom was as good a mom to me as my T is to her daughter.

I'm 24 and my T is in his 50's...probably mid to late, though I'm not really sure. I think we work well together, even though the age gap is pretty wide...he does a good job of keeping current, and can laugh at himself when he's not (ie: when he makes beginners mistakes with technology, etc.) so it works fine. The parental thing can be an issue sometimes, especially since my father is an alcoholic and therefore not the most emotionally available parent...but it hasn't been a huge problem.