[sittingatwatersedge]

Someone recently posted >> A former T. I saw once said to me-- "when change starts you will know, as the people you gravitate towards won't be the same type of people you used to gravitate towards"....

Wow, I like this.

Mine says she sees positive changes, but won't tell me what ... which is frustrating.
Any comments from YOUR T on how you can know when change starts?

[Melbadaze]

T just said she sees green shoots toward a more cohesive self, and yes I find myself pulling away from some.

[purple_fins]

ummmm seems like a former T. said to me--"when change starts you will know, as the people you gravitate towards won't be the same type of people you used to gravitate towards".... (it is happening-- slowllllllyyyy)

I've always veered towards those that keep me "invisible", they seek all the attention and don't ask anything about me-- I fix them, have the answers and act as if my life is just fine(akin to my childhood-- keep quiet as no one wants to hear from you- you are fine no matter what is going on, others are the ones that need,want and deserve validation/attention and help)

The T. I see now has said, "there are positive changes, I can tell"..... but yea, she hasn't really said what she's noticed.......

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[Mike_J]

Not sure if this counts or not, but my therapist told me

"It's going to get worse before it gets better"

And she was oh so right.....

[sunrise]

My T told me once, during our first year, that he could see the changes in me. He compared me to the cherry tree in his yard: first it is just bare wood and stems, then buds with a hint of pink, then covered with flowers, then green leaves. He said every day he looks it is different, changed just a bit from the day before, but always growing and changing. This is what I remind him of, he said.

[peaches100]

My t has told me i've made good progress, but has not specified what she's noticed.

As far as growth causing us to gravitate toward different sort of people, i think it means that we aren't drawn anymore to people who knowingly or unknowingly use or abuse us. We start having more self-confidence and indpendence, and we aren't willing to be treated so badly anymore.

Like with my former friend who invited me back into her life, I WANT to, but i am NOT going to. . .because i am learning it is not a healthy relationship for me. So that's a change for me. I'm looking for a different sort of friend now.

[WePow]

For me, I can feel it within myself. I feel less anxious and more able to handle what comes up inside myself. T confirms that he can see me becoming healthier mentally. It is a good feeling to know I have not given up on myself.