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Old May 21, 2010, 06:10 PM
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He also called me lazy that day and compared me with himself in that way.
So he hates himself and you remind him of himself? Sounds like it could be the reason why he treated you the way he did (it wasn't right of course! but you can see "why" he did it. I hope I'm making sense!) So it was about him and not about you.

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I really *want* to believe i was that sweet, lovely child. but in my heart, I'm not sure how to believe it. I SOOOOO much want to but have never been able to see myself that way. Any tips on how to go about changing one's view of oneself??
Inner child work......

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But to move forward, i would need to be able to believe my own memories and feelings,

and to feel justified in feeling sorry for/or having compassion for myself as a little girl and what i went through.

I would have to get over the critical voice inside that says it wasn't that bad, that i'm just a whiner, and that others have gone through so much worse and fared just fine.

It's very, very hard for me to feel compassion for myself, or to see myself as someone who is legitimately hurting and deserving of compassion and love.
This sounds like some good places to start working!
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Old May 21, 2010, 09:03 PM
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thanks Peaches - I really don't remember. We'd just moved there that year, things were terrible in my home, i was spaced out most the time and the one pic i've seen from that time i look like i'm druged out (dissociation at its finest). I may have a yearbook or class pic but i have NO idea where and I know mom won't help me (go thru her stuff). We've moved so many times, I just don't know where things are. But I will try FBing my school. I only remember one other teacher's last name. well, ok and 2 others from 7th grade, before we moved *again*. so i never got that year's book.
I'll keep trying. I know the two teacher's I remember from 6th used to walk down the walkways (outdoors), see me alone, and ask if i was ok. They'd look concerned, and then walk away talking quietly together.
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