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#1
Jun 05, 2010, 09:04 PM
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Sometimes I am a little anxious about just how much my T notices. Even down to playing a game.
We play Mancala, I just love it and it's distracting. Anyways, we were playing it, I won the first game and we started the second. I moved and she said, "Hmm...that's interesting." I asked what was interesting. She said, "It's ok if you win." and I said, "I know." Again, I asked why and she said, "You are just playing differently than before." I asked her how and she just said that the way I was playing was just different. She said that sometimes when she plays with her son, her son lets her win. I think I was subconsciously letting her win. Man, if she is noticing the little differences in my play that I don't even recognize, what else is she noticing and not telling me??? Does anyone else ever worry about that sort of thing? Does T tell you when they notice something different?
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#2
Jun 05, 2010, 10:03 PM
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That is way cool your t noticed that! It is something a t learns to do -observe details. My t knows me better than I know myself at times because he observes. He has pointed out things to me that he wants me to be aware of such as a non emotional distancing I may have with certain things we are talking about.
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Jun 05, 2010, 11:55 PM
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I love that she does it, because then I notice it...I just hate the anxiety (at first) when she brings it up.
Yeah, She is just so observant.
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Jun 06, 2010, 07:26 AM
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It is scary, I don't like being "found out" and maybe getting in trouble
 Much nicer when it's T, makes it feels like she cares enough TO find out and know me.
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Jun 06, 2010, 07:31 AM
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Strange, though I fear T seeing "right inside of me", I also crave it. It just makes me so god dam vunrable.
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#6
Jun 06, 2010, 07:41 AM
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OMG YES! I remember early on in T I could not stand knowing that she was watching me. The thing is...I kind of do my own version of it too. I remember feeling the sensation of a hawk circling above me when she zeroed in on my behavior. Now when I sense that I kind of chuckle, and tell myself she is just keeping an eye out for danger.
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Jun 06, 2010, 01:10 PM
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Yes, T makes me feel like she cares.
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jun 06, 2010, 01:12 PM
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jun 06, 2010, 01:14 PM
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That is a good way of looking at it, that she is keeping an eye out for ya! I will start thinking that way. I think it means she cares, too!
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Jun 06, 2010, 01:21 PM
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interesting post, onlymedid. it seems like maybe you're in a good place with your therapist, that she can "get it" without you saying anything. and that would certainly be scary as you're not able to hid anymore - so it's like being in a state of constant vulnerability when you're there. look on the brightside.. at least you're connecting with her!
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Jun 06, 2010, 03:54 PM
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Jun 06, 2010, 05:02 PM
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Yes, that is very true, seventyeight, it is like being constantly vulnerable, but it's safe even though scary. Yes, connection with her is great.
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jun 06, 2010, 06:22 PM
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Hmm. Interesting thread. If my T was able to read me, I wish he'd tell me what he figured out...instead of having me try to figure it out on my own....
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Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
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Jun 06, 2010, 06:39 PM
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jun 07, 2010, 06:15 AM
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>>> Does anyone else ever worry about that sort of thing?
ohhhhh yessssss alllllll the tiiiiiime.....  >>> Does T tell you when they notice something different? not usually. And even if I ask directly, the answers I get are sort of vague. T once said that we were just two professionals sitting there having a conversation. I said, oh really. You took classes in how to read people, their posture, their grooming, the changes in their voices as they talk, their eye contact, their movements - didn't you? well, yes. T is good at disguising the moments, but at times I do feel like I'm being swept by a pair of searchlights that just take in everything. This is one big reason why I don't do a lot of eye contact. Hey maybe I could carry a big folding screen to my next appointment, and sit on one side with T on the other side. Think she'll go for it?
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Jun 07, 2010, 06:39 AM
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I like the idea of a big folding screen! lol.
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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#17
Jun 07, 2010, 10:11 AM
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Just so the T gets it right. Instead of getting it wrong.
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Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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