[growlycat]

Hello all- I know I haven't given a lot of "my story" yet. I'll try to start, forgive me if I am too vague as I am a little paranoid of being recognized (very unlikely, not like I'm famous!!)

MIGHT be a trigger for some, just a S warning...

I am a F in my late 30's but my therapy began in my teens--went horribly wrong in the beginning, lead to a S attempt. Hospitalized, a bad therapist match and I was a wreck right before entering college. Finally found a great match therapist-wise and I have been seeing him ever since. About 6 years ago, I accepted a high profile and ca-ching $ job halfway across the country. I was torn horribly but my T and I worked out phone sessions 1x week and I see him every chance I get when I fly home. Ugh, now I'm laid off here in flyover country and want to go home and resume face-to-face therapy. Neither of us is getting any younger.

My issues-depression but less so these days..Anxiety, past trauma stuff with a horrible caregiver.

Dependency issues with my T are ongoing but better. Unlike past therapists, he treats dependency as a tool, not the boogeyman. Other therapists LOVED to tell me what therapy was NOT about but failed to explain what it could do. Very grateful I found my current T.

Thanks for "listening"!

[BlackCanary]

Sounds like a tough spot to be in - unemployed!
hope that changes soon, and that you find a job you love!
As for T - good luck with that too, a good therapist is hard to find. I hope you have other supports in your life, too, when you don't have therapy.

[growlycat]

Thanks Canary!! I've at least had some interviews but not in my home state.

Actually, thanks to Cobra coverage, I still have my phone sessions. We have had such a long relationship that he wouldn't just drop me anyways.
Very lucky to have my T!!!

Hi growlycat

I'm sorry to hear about your job loss but I am glad you have such a wonderful T. Once you're lucky enough to find a T like that, you hang on like crazy. I have a T that feels the same way about "dependancy". He sees it as a tool to build trust and keep it.
I hope the job market takes an upswing quickly.

[peaches100]

Welcome, Growlycat! Thanks for posting and giving us a little bit of information about you and what you're coping with! I struggle with dependency problems with my t also. Sometimes, it seems helpful, but other times, painful. Maybe the attachment is good, but the dependency can become problematic? I dunno. I'm probably the last person to ask since i have such problems with it.