A little background

Hello all- I know I haven't given a lot of "my story" yet. I'll try to start, forgive me if I am too vague as I am a little paranoid of being recognized (very unlikely, not like I'm famous!!)

MIGHT be a trigger for some, just a S warning...

I am a F in my late 30's but my therapy began in my teens--went horribly wrong in the beginning, lead to a S attempt. Hospitalized, a bad therapist match and I was a wreck right before entering college. Finally found a great match therapist-wise and I have been seeing him ever since. About 6 years ago, I accepted a high profile and ca-ching $ job halfway across the country. I was torn horribly but my T and I worked out phone sessions 1x week and I see him every chance I get when I fly home. Ugh, now I'm laid off here in flyover country and want to go home and resume face-to-face therapy. Neither of us is getting any younger.

My issues-depression but less so these days..Anxiety, past trauma stuff with a horrible caregiver.

Dependency issues with my T are ongoing but better. Unlike past therapists, he treats dependency as a tool, not the boogeyman. Other therapists LOVED to tell me what therapy was NOT about but failed to explain what it could do. Very grateful I found my current T.

Thanks for "listening"!

Sounds like a tough spot to be in - unemployed!
hope that changes soon, and that you find a job you love!
As for T - good luck with that too, a good therapist is hard to find. I hope you have other supports in your life, too, when you don't have therapy.

Thanks Canary!! I've at least had some interviews but not in my home state.

Actually, thanks to Cobra coverage, I still have my phone sessions. We have had such a long relationship that he wouldn't just drop me anyways.
Very lucky to have my T!!!

Hi growlycat

I'm sorry to hear about your job loss but I am glad you have such a wonderful T. Once you're lucky enough to find a T like that, you hang on like crazy. I have a T that feels the same way about "dependancy". He sees it as a tool to build trust and keep it.
I hope the job market takes an upswing quickly.

Welcome, Growlycat! Thanks for posting and giving us a little bit of information about you and what you're coping with! I struggle with dependency problems with my t also. Sometimes, it seems helpful, but other times, painful. Maybe the attachment is good, but the dependency can become problematic? I dunno. I'm probably the last person to ask since i have such problems with it.