Victory

I didn't want to post on the end of my last post... because everything is now new again.

Session with T was WONDERFUL! I enjoyed so much our brief hug at the end. A hug I was able and wanted to accept as it came with me knowing again I had been safe with him the entire time. We talked about why his email had the tone it did (he wants to be a T - not a financial person!) and I want him as my T :-) And we talked about how I was able to learn so much about why I responded the way I did... the stuff about the past and so much.

And I saw in his eyes a true respect he has for me as a human.
He has his own stuff that I may pick up on at times.
I have my own stuff I project onto him at times.
But I can work through the pain and trust questions... I can use PC and you WONDERFUL peeps here !!! I have these tools I am learning to use.
All of that is making me a stronger and much healthier human.

There will be more days ahead when I don't trust.
There will be more tears.
But like many of you share here on PC - with each rupture that is healed, the relationship with our Ts only get stronger and healthier.
I am so thankful for this chance I have to learn HOW to have a healthy realtionship and HOW to figure out my "stuff" that impacts my relationships. I needed this. I needed you guys. I needed my T.

Thank you.

awsome weepow im so happy for you

WePow, that is excellent news. There's just no substitute for a session like that! You got to see the big picture today - chalk up a few extra wisdom points.

Wepow, Great stuff!

I'm glad it went so well. But did he explain what went wrong with the billing, and why? Just to get the facts and figures right...

Good Work WePow! And, yes, all of your struggles is a part of healing and as long as you keep going back to T to discuss what is going on with you, you will continue to heal and grow!!

That's soooooo great, WePow!!! I hope that my work with T later today to address this new rupture will lead to a stronger relationship...as it also holds the risk of ending therapy altogether. I'm glad you were able to work through it and get to a better place...

Good luck MU! Lead with your heart today.

As for the billing, he said what I told him should clear up the issue. He did change billing people at the end of the year (his wife was doing it and he started to pay someone outside to do that part). So with the change, I think my credit was "lost" but they will find it. He said to NOT worry about it one bit. And he said he knew I was OCD about stuff like this and he knew if he just gave me what the billing person said that I would be able to put together what I needed on my end for them. He has a big trigger issue with the money side of stuff and just wants to be a T :-) It is something I really like about him.

(((((((WePow)))))

I'm so glad that you told him and he was receptive to hearing it and you two were able to work it out. I have to run to class, so I will write the rest of my thoughts later. But I just wanted to let you know how happy I am that this is all getting worked out and about how much you were able to learn about your own triggers around this situation.

By the way, on a rather down-to-earth note, perhaps it would be a good idea to ask your T to give you receipts periodically, so that you both can keep tabs what you paid and when.

WePow!

I am SOOOOOOO glad you and t have ironed things out. Isn't it such a total relief???? Whew!!

It seems my t and i have been having alot of ruptures and repairs lately also.

My son's T has a billing person, and I can talk to her about the financial stuff directly vs. talking to the psychologist at a session. That person also must keep all info confidential, but is familiar with the payment systems and has all of the data in front of her. Maybe your T will let you contact the billing person and you can compare statements, clear it up without the therapeutic relationship in the middle.

Good work by both of you on this challenging moment, getting through!

Yeah, my t never handles the money end of things or scheduling, etc. His secretaries do that. I like that our relationship doesn't have those issues to interfere with our therapy. You might do like bc recommended and deal directly with the billing person in the future.

I'm so glad it worked out for you, WePow. I like seeing you happy!

WePow~ Your situation reminded me of a discussion we had in a class of mine. It was about how hard it often is for Ts to discuss money issues with clients. Often Ts have their own aversion to dealing with money and the way it changes a relationship when it is brought in to it. I am glad that you were able to work this out with your T and see that you were both bringing issues into it. I know it is hard to see that our Ts are not perfect. And because we hope them to be perfect that when they are not it is hard to understand and hard to not think that there is something wrong with us, or something we are doing to provoke their reaction.