[Amazonmom]

Actually it was her birthday and she gave me a coconut cream cupcake she made

We discussed my having another baby sometime in the future. Apparently there is a psychiatrist in my area that does meds for bipolar women planning pregnancies. But she is known to be the biggest *ss ever with no bedside manner whatsoever. And is the unquestionable expert and you will do things HER WAY.

Well then. Might have a problem with that. Might find my own meds person for pregnancy. I am probably just as smart as the mean doc and refuse to be treated like I am an object. The doc works for me, right?

I get so humiliated having flashbacks in front of my T. We talked about the miscarriage and I freaked. Does anyone else feel gross about reliving events in front of T?

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by Amazonmom

Does anyone else feel gross about reliving events in front of T?

Oh absolutely. (((((((((((((((((( amom )))))))))))))))))))))

y'know, picking your own meds might not be the very best path... give it some thought. How cool that you're planning another baby

[Perna]

I had an eye doctor that was like the psychiatrist you describe; yelled at me like I was 10 years old. Luckily my coworker/girlfriend's elderly mother used the same eye doctor and my girlfriend took her mother on her doctor visits and was the intermediary so she and I would trade stories and laugh at the doctor and it made things much more comfortable for me, knowing it wasn't "me".

I'd go to the good psychiatrist and tell your T about how outrageous she acts, etc. and just go along with whatever when you're working with her, knowing the rude manner is "her" and has nothing whatsoever to do with you. You'll get really competent advice and can blow off steam with your T. Whenever she frightens, angers, or tries to humiliate you, you can remember your T giving you one of her birthday cupcakes and smile (which should push the psychiatrist around the bend, LOL).

How cool, that your T gave you one of her birthday cupcakes! Yes, it does feel a bit frightening and uncomfortable to re-experience in front of T but her reaction is nice and takes away some of the embarrassment. I concentrate on the connection between us at that time instead of how I'm feeling (about the event I'm re-experiencing or how T is responding, either one :-) THAT T is responding well and I can count on her, that's what comforts me and calms me down.

[WePow]

((((( Amazonmom ))))))) You are doing great by continueing the healing process. I do indeed understand the "ick" feeling one has after having relived flashbacks in the presence of T. It is no fun at all.

That is so awesome T gave you a B-Day cupcake!!!!

[Amazonmom]

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

Oh absolutely. (((((((((((((((((( amom )))))))))))))))))))))

y'know, picking your own meds might not be the very best path... give it some thought. How cool that you're planning another baby

Oh I only meant picking another pdoc. There are many in Seattle and I know there are some that do perinatal psychiatry other than the mean one.

[Amazonmom]

I also remembered something. The doc works for me. I am a bossy butt ICU nurse. I can claim power in the situation.

Who knows, the doc and I might get along just fine. I do have a talent for getting along with difficult docs at work.