[koalabb123456]

I feel like such a burden to my therapist I feel like she doesn't deserve someone like me. I know her job as a therapist is to help me. I know she really want to help me to be less depressed and be happy, but i feel like all i do is disappointing her and wasting her time. I don't deserve her at all.

[mixedup_emotions]

Originally Posted by koalabb123456

I feel like such a burden to my therapist I feel like she doesn't deserve someone like me. I know her job as a therapist is to help me. I know she really want to help me to be less depressed and be happy, but i feel like all i do is disappointing her and wasting her time. I don't deserve her at all.

((((Koala))))

I know I can relate to this so much....I too feel that way many, many times. I feel as though I am failing as a client because I'm so unhappy, that maybe I'm too much of a burden for T, that he's disappointed in me, would prefer to work with other clients that are "easier"...blech.

I know it's hard not to feel that way. Have you talked to T about your feelings? Perhaps she will be able to reassure you?

I know that I talked to T about something along these lines, like I'm not getting better fast enough....T gave me the reassurance I needed in order to progress.

As I look back on it, it was important for my T to give me that reassurance, so that I could do the work I needed to in order to get past that stumbling block - because my focus on failing would just get in the way.

[Christina86]

Originally Posted by koalabb123456

I feel like such a burden to my therapist I feel like she doesn't deserve someone like me. I know her job as a therapist is to help me. I know she really want to help me to be less depressed and be happy, but i feel like all i do is disappointing her and wasting her time. I don't deserve her at all.

Oh man, I could have written this. Well, at different times anyways, since it DOES get easier. At a certain point you won't feel like quite so much of a burden.

It IS her job to help you, yes. But she wouldn't be doing this job if she didn't love to help others.

Progress, not perfection. You ARE progressing, even if you don't see it. But we can't wake up one day and be magically happy - unfortunately therapy doesn't work like that.

But I do understand the feelings, and I hope you know (somewhere deep inside) that you're NOT a burden.

[koalabb123456]

Originally Posted by Christina86

Oh man, I could have written this. Well, at different times anyways, since it DOES get easier. At a certain point you won't feel like quite so much of a burden.

It IS her job to help you, yes. But she wouldn't be doing this job if she didn't love to help others.

Progress, not perfection. You ARE progressing, even if you don't see it. But we can't wake up one day and be magically happy - unfortunately therapy doesn't work like that.

But I do understand the feelings, and I hope you know (somewhere deep inside) that you're NOT a burden.

Thanks

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Koala, it's best to tell your T about these feelings so you two can explore a bit more about why you are feeling that way.

[granite1]

koala i'm so sorry you are feeling this way and i think you if at all possale should share this with your T.i struggle with the fact that i know for sure i am giving my T total fits of frustration week after week.but one thing i have allowed myself to notice and really feel in my heart is that every week she comes down those stares and gets me for T.she hasnt gotten rid of me to someone else or sent me to hosp.so although i frear this i guess i must be ok