[DelusionsDaily]

So I wrote a letter to my therapist tonight. See there has been an issue I have completely avoided and even lied to her about it when we started together in March. Part of me wants to take the chicken way out and take it to her office tomorrow and drop it off for her to read. Part of me is scared to give it to her at all. It's major thing and I know that keeping it from her will only delay progress in therapy. I'm terrified she will be mad at me for not being completely honest with her in the beginning. I'm sure she won't be but it's a big fear because it is a really big issue. Anyway any advice?

[Fartraveler]

I frequently take the chicken way out, and mention difficult topics first through email. (I actually have left the occasional letter at my T's office, too.) She never minds, and I think she appreciates it. T's want to know the difficult stuff. So my advice is just get your T the information in the way that seems best to you, and then the two of you can take it from there.

Good luck,
-Far

[ECHOES]

Can you instead picture her being happy, delighted that you could share this with her and excited for how it will help your therapy?

[sunrise]

I did this in my first year of therapy--revealed a very significant thing to my T after months of therapy. He was pretty surprised, "why didn't you tell me this?!" and I felt bad I had not, like I had been dishonest. But we talked about that and he told me how a client often can't reveal everything at once until they really know and trust the therapist and have built up a history together. He told me it was OK. It wasn't that I actively lied to him about this stuff, just that I chose not to bring it up yet--until the time was right. That made me feel better. We can't tell them everything in the first months.

Melissa, I think your therapist will understand and will be glad she know this about you now so the two of you can work on it.

[WikidPissah]

Go for it! Personally I like the idea of dropping it off ahead of time, giving T a chance to review and think about how to respond. It may be the easy way out for you, but if you think about it...it is easier for T as well, gives T a chance to digest the info on their own.

[WePow]

Be honest with T. You are paying for an honest relationship. When a client is not honest with T, the only person really being cheated is the client.

[DelusionsDaily]

Thanks everyone. Just alot of anxiety about it that's all. I'm going to tell her...I'll drop it off tomorrow morning after work to the office. Hope it goes ok...I have an appt with her next week tuesday. I have to be honest with her or it will eat me up. I trust her completely...for once in my life I trust someone completely.