[MINIME]

My t is having surgery today and will be gone two to six weeks. its triggering me and im not doing well. i have two ts and i feel angry at my other one she isnt hearing how deeply this is triggering me. im not well

[MINIME]

Fffffffffffffiiiiiiiiiinnnnnneeeeeeeeeeee

[MINIME]

Im soooooooooo done with everyone everywhere.

[mixedup_emotions]

(((( MINIME ))))

That must be so hard to deal with. Just having your T feeling unwell is enough, but also knowing that your T will be out for quite a bit of time....ACK!

I'm sorry your other T is not being supportive. Do you plan to address this with her?

[darkrunner]

((((((((((((Minime)))))))))))
I read your post last night but then my kids started pestering me so I didn't get a chance to respond.

I think I understand a little bit about how that feels. My T had surgery in January and was out for a long time. It sucked. And it was kind of weird and scary. If it had been my friend, I would have taken over a meal, maybe done some house cleaning for her, definitely shoveled her driveway. But since she is my T, I couldn't do much. I sent a card. But I didn't even know how the surgery went or how things were going until I finally saw her again.

It's ok to feel angry at your other T. Are you sure she isn't hearing you? Did she say something that made you think that? Or maybe it's just how you are perceiving things because of your feelings about the other T.

Can you tell her you feel like she isn't hearing you?
That's a scary thing to do, but it could help your T understand how to make you feel heard and taken care of.

Take care of yourself Minime, hand in there, ok?

((((((((((((((((((Minime)))))))))))))))))))))))

I would be triggered by that too, for sure. There was ONE time when my T had to cancel because he had an "accident" (that's all he said in the e-mail) and it scared me and made me feel really helpless. I was scared because I didn't know if T was okay, and I felt helpless because I couldn't really call him to find out how he was, or do anything to help him in any way. Blah.

And then on top of that, to have her gone for two to six weeks would be so hard. When my T goes on vacation for ONE week it's hard!

I hope your other T can hear how hard it is for you. I hear you.

Lots and lots of to you

[sunrise]

That sounds so hard. I know you will worry about your T. Will your T let you know the surgery went OK and how she is doing? I would feel reassured by that. I'm sorry your other T doesn't get how hard this is for you.

[phoenix7]

My T had surgery for his cancer and i remeber feeling helpless and panicky cos i wouldnt know if he was ok or not - i am so sorry this is happeneing to your T and to you my dear friend

know that i am thinking of you and sending you love

take care kind one

P7

[rainbow8]

Oh, that is such a difficult situation to be in! I would be a basket case for sure! Will you be able to find out how T is doing? I would keep telling the other T your feelings. I don't understand how she could not know, but if you keep telling her she'll get it. Do the Ts know each other? If so, can you get updates on her that way? I hope your T gets better quickly, closer to the 2 weeks than the 6.

[WikidPissah]

minime....sorry about your T...that sounds quite difficult. I really hope your other T hears your fears and stuff...wishing you well...