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Old Nov 26, 2010, 02:31 AM
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I'm sure I will have to bring it up verbally when I see her. I'm so nervous about it and scared. I fear she is going to reject me.

Anytime I was upset about something I was told that I was being too sensitive and my feelings were never validated (when I would try to go to my mom for support - this is something I tried once - she physically pushed me away and yelled at me).
Can you see how you are being triggered here? Maybe when you go to therapy keep telling yourself that this T is not your mother. I have done this exact thing and it really worked (I told myself in the moment that this person is not my mother when I was being triggered).

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from what others have posted I don't think she will shame me but based on childhood experiences it sure does feel like that's a possibility.
Again, it is being triggered, just keep reminding yourself that this was the past and that now it is the present. I kept making this delineation with my triggers and it really helped.

Actually, maybe even talking about what happened with your mother in therapy will be helpful since this is what is being triggered.
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Thanks for this!
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Old Nov 26, 2010, 10:21 PM
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Do you watch In Treatment?

I sometimes think I am moving at the smallest increments possible forward.

It is safer for me to absorb the hurt then to draw attention to it--because I DO.NOT.WANT anyone to be angry at me.
Velcro I don't have HBO but I have watched In Treatment and I am HOOKED on that show. A friend of mine purchased season one and gave it to me to borrow. I love it!

I also feel like I'm crawling forward in therapy. A part of me thinks my T must be so sick of me by now. I can relate to not wanting anyone angry at me....but I am working on trying to change the way I think so I can have healthier relationships and be happy.

Thank you for sharing Velcro.
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