Christmas Card

I have a question for everyone. Have you ever gotten a card from T before?

I got a Christmas Card from T the first year I started seeing her but no more (it's now been two years - no card). Not sure how I feel about that. It was a generic card but thought I would see what others have exeperienced.

And have you given your T a card (I did that one year after she sent me one)?

never gotten a Xmas card from T. I send her one every year, though

I have never received a card in the mail from T. One year, I sent him one, with a nice note inside, but he never mentioned it. I guess I needed positive reinforcement to send again, so I haven't. (I mailed him a check once when I forgot to pay him at therapy, and he did not receive that, so perhaps mail to his office is not reliable.)

If my T gave me any kind of gift, I'd be filled with glee. Heck, I'd feel special if she handed me a tissue whenever I cried.

(((chicken))) Geez hands you a tissue.

Thanks!

(((Chicken)))
I have a massive collection of appointment cards.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

I have an old one in my wallet

Okay last week I asked for the pen she was writing with (just your regular 10 for 2 bucks sort of pen), and T looked at me like I was crazy. She said in disbelief and with open eyes, "You want my pen??" I said, "Yes." Then she babbled some T-speak about my wanting an object to remind me of her. I didn't respond and just held out my hand. The pen sits in my drawer that's near my head where I sleep.

I love that you asked for what you needed And got it!

I have so much of my T's stuff. I keep threatening to take a lamp, or a chair. THAT would be a fabulous transitional object! lol

T has never given me a card. I would be shocked. But he gives me SO much all year, and that's way more important to me.

I didn't give him a Christmas card - just some candy I made. But when I knitted socks for him for his birthday, I did include a card about how grateful I was. It felt good, and right.

Aren't holidays kind of weird with T? So many boundary things to negotiate!

Jeez, how weird is that? was she just starting her practice? i have haven't gotten a thing from t, but i haven't asked either... a big chicken when it comes to things like that

Tree, now you have me curious? what of t's stuff do you have??? i seem to remember a stapler????

I really like my t's rug, maybe i should ask him if I can have that? or at least a 12'' square with my safe spot on it.... right in the middle

i"m curious too, Tree! I need ideas on what else I could take, Her office is so sparse. I've been wanting to ask for her throw blanket.

LOLOLOLOL

I don't even know. I have a few marble/stone things that he has for the actual purpose of sending home with people. I have a COLLECTION of them. Early in therapy, I took them a lot for different reasons.

I have one or two of his pens.

I have some post-it notes that he wrote for me.

I have one of his personal items from a little collection he has on his desk.

A couple of appointments ago, I looked under all of the cushions in his office for spare change and he taped it all together and sent it home with me (something like "74 cents worth of connection") lol

And I have an endless supply of voice mails, because we leave one for each other after every session.

That's all I can think of right now. Still trying to get that chair! lol

In return, he has a ton of my stuff on his desk. A box I painted to hold my "stuff". Something I knitted for him. A couple of books I gave him as gifts. Probably things I'm forgetting.

T and I seem to do a lot of exchanging of "stuff" now that I'm writing it all down. But I guess we've had close to 300 therapy hours together (at least), so maybe in that context, it's not that much...

My T has given me a couple of cards...one when she visited me in the hospital the day my son was born. She also brought me cake that day and changed his first poopy diaper

And on our last session together before I moved away, she gave me a handmade card with a really touching note written inside. She was a little nervous handing it to me, saying she normally doesn't make cards for clients.

I felt so loved and special.

I miss her

Wow, that is a lot! My T just moved into her office, so I hope over time she gets more things and I cant take them from her.

One day, I am going to ask for that blanket though. Maybe a few months.

My t gave me a birthday card last year. I showed our christmas card/picture to her last year and she asked for one.

I sent T a card last year, and it wasn't acknowledged. It didn't bother me though. This year, I haven't sent cards to anybody...not even T.

I wonder if I should give a card. She doesn't celebrate the holidays. I did give her a card and made a donation in her name to a charity she'd liked for our one year anniversary of working together.

She said she was very touched and that no one had ever done that in her 15 years of counseling.

this is my 7th xmas with T and only my 2nd christimas card...it begun as we struggled with me rying to hold onto the connectuon during all breaks and she offered to send me a postcard during her summer break and since then cards always arrive during any break...i watch my brain as I read her c ards..talk about read so much into them lol...i remember once saying I felt I'd forced her to send cards etc and she pointed out she can't be forced she offered because she wanted too...that was a new concept for me to e xpereince and then I sorta accused her of doing it because I pay her and she got a bit upset with that and said I can't buy her caring thats something she chooses to do...i didn't believe that at first because it was another new concept..and now? i get real wamth and belief from her through her cards and/or emails.

WOW those are some great tellings everyone!

Griffinp? wow! your T went to the hospital to visit after you gave birth and then changed your baby's diaper?

I'm not sending a card this year but I'm thinking about writing a thank you note or thank you letter to give to t at my next appt in the new year.

i sent my T a hand made card and a cupon book for christmas but she didnt say anything to me about it.i just thought she hadnt gotten it yet but now with some people saying that there T never said anything about itthat now makes me wonder if she just didnt want to say anything about it that would hurt me because i put a lot of work and care into it.she has always said something when i send her cards

I've never given my T a card because I don't know where it would end up (in my file? in her home?) and that makes me anxious. My T has never given me a card either, but this year she gave me a Christmas present and for the first time wrote on the tag. It says 'Hope you have a lovely Christmas, love, T'. I read it about 27 times a day!

That's weird that she sent a card the first year and didn't continue. Could you ask her?

I have 'pieces' of T strategically distributed throughout my life so I'm never without her. A keyring (sadly destroyed by my dog!) in my pencil case for work. Some pieces of paper she wrote on in my wallet. A box from her present on my living room shelf. A ball she gave me in my coat pocket. The ribbon and tag from her present attached to my teddy-mouse on my bed. The other week she told me she has a piece from my coat in her house that she keeps meaning to give back (she had to take me home once and the piece must have fallen off in the taxi). I was like "Oooooorrr, it could just stay in your house forever?" She said yes

Actually I almost forgot I have a couple of books that T is letting me borrow. I'm going to return them to her.. ok one of them The other one I haven't finished reading yet

I want your T. Is it a woman or man? If it's a woman, please forward her contact information. Thank you. Yes, I am willing to relocate.