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Old Jan 03, 2011, 11:27 AM
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there is guilt for standing up for me :-( No clue as to why.

I don't need to do that type of thing and I worry sometimes if I just need to be in DBT or something stronger or maybe a total brain transplant. I feel like I just can't respond that strongly when these things happen.
When you are small and being abused you believe that you cannot stand up for yourself. Also, when you are being abused it is all about the abuser's needs and not at all about what you need so standing up for yourself means that you denied someone a need (even though they do not deserve this need and you do).

I think that you are doing well WePow on your path to healing. Yes, when you are triggered it is hard but you solve each one of your triggers and take big steps forward. You are doing it the way that it is supposed to be done. I wish it were easier too.
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Old Jan 03, 2011, 11:38 AM
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WePow, I think your T will tell you, You Rock!
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Old Jan 03, 2011, 11:43 AM
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Then my mind spins out and I am a mess!
I think your mind has spun out thinking your T will hate you rather than being proud of you! You took care of yourself in an, obvious to me, necessary, way. Whether the guy meant to invade your space or not doesn't matter; he did and you responded appropriately for you! That's what it's all about. There were only a couple things you could do in that situation; either back away yourself (when it was he who was moving into your space) or block him and you used the tool at hand, your grocery cart, and blocked him. I say, good work!
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Old Jan 03, 2011, 08:56 PM
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WOO HOO!!! You're doing great, WePow!!!
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Old Jan 03, 2011, 09:00 PM
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I got an email back with just the time change I requested for Friday - moving it up to the AM instead of the PM (decided to NOT go to the girlie doc as I just am not yet ready for THAT). So I will have some ME time instead. Then I will go bowling.

I did "ok" today at work. Tried to keep a good attitude. Kinda exhausted though. At least T didn't say a word about the other stuff. :-)
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Old Jan 05, 2011, 10:26 PM
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OOOoooooo....Wepow!...LO.oka the love you have here! Wow!...~W~
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