I need to SEE the pain!

There is so much more to this situation than I could post. I totally understand where you are coming from Sannah. I agree. I don't have a problem being 'intimate' in case anyone thinks I am a cold frigid *****. That is WHY I am so frustrated. I WANT a normal intimate relationship with a spouse. At this point, that is just not happening. He is not the only one who is frustrated. I guess I could have turned to online affairs, or affairs outside our marriage, but I haven't. That would devastate him. He has told that many, many times.

In order to me not to get upset any more than I already am, I am going to refrain from any more comments on this. I do appreciate all of the input I have received here, and the questions did cause me to stop and think about some things. Like I said, I am not claiming that I do everything right. I have my issues. That is why I am in therapy!

(((((Squiggle))))) I'm sorry you are in so much pain, but I do understand the need to SEE the pain. Sometimes, rather than talking, I just want to show T the blood running down my arms from where I have cut- then maybe he would understand how bad I feel.

(((Squiggle))) - that's all I can add. I cannot imagine the hardships you are going through. Please look after yourself