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I thought about this reading some other topics on termination, but it didn't really fit in there.

My T got seriously ill last year and had to stop suddenly, she would contact me when she got back (it would take several months she said), or I could go to her partner. I went to the partner but didn't like him, so I stopped going, and thought I would wait till she returned. I know she's back by now, but she hasn't contacted me (because she knows I saw her partner, I guess).
And you know, I am doing quite well, probably even due to the somewhat fuzzy way it ended (or didn't end). It's like I can go back any moment I want, but I don't have to either. I know though, if she contacts me tomorrow, I will go back immediately. I still have things to work on, and I do miss her a lot, but I'm fine the way it is right now.

It's actually a real good feeling, and I wondered if anybody else had such an experience?

I haven't really had a similiar experience but I can give some feedback I think.

If you are feeling ok without therapy right now, that's great. Just because T is back doesn't mean you have to rush yourself back in to treatment. I can understand how if she reached out first and initiated to invite you back it, it would be hard to refuse.

Try to accept it is what it is right now. She may call tomorrow, or in a month, or let it be completely up to you. And that's ok. Do what you need in this moment to take care of yourself, and let the other things fall into place. And remind yourself if/when you need T, she's there.

Good luck.

[unaluna]

One does tend to feel better when NOT in therapy, to a certain extent, because we're not in there stirring up the pot of emotions, so to speak.

[laceylu]

I was just thinking how nice a break I have had this week since T is on vacation and the memories and change motivation is not at a full boil!!!!!!!!

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Originally Posted by stormyangels

I can understand how if she reached out first and initiated to invite you back it, it would be hard to refuse.

Yes, that's exactly how it would feel: an offer you can't refuse!! Thanks.

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Originally Posted by hankster

One does tend to feel better when NOT in therapy, to a certain extent, because we're not in there stirring up the pot of emotions, so to speak.

I like that idea. The statement that I would be AFTER therapy now doesn't seem to fit, but just 'not in therapy', yeah, that's what it is. Thanks!

[unaluna]

I should have said these words of wisdom came from T#5, 1976-1980, 1982-1986, the in-between times I left because of work transfers, the first time to California, the 2nd to Saginaw, Mich., speaking of offers you can't refuse!

But as they have to say on the Weight Watchers ads now, "Results not typical". I should prolly edit my signature...