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#1
Mar 04, 2011, 12:50 AM
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I finally got the nerve to start the conversation!
**big sigh of relief** I wonder if I will have the nerve to continue it... *bites nails* I don't have to if I don't want to. *exhales* |
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Mar 04, 2011, 12:51 AM
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Good for you!!
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Mar 04, 2011, 12:57 AM
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Are you going to continue it??
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Mar 04, 2011, 01:07 AM
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idk...probably...it's scary. She was so gentle. We also talked about how to bring it up in the future. We came up with some signals so I don't have to start every time.
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Mar 04, 2011, 01:09 AM
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Well that is good. Who is "she" ?? Signals sound cool...
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Mar 04, 2011, 01:10 AM
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she = my T
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Mar 04, 2011, 02:47 AM
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oooh it is sooo wonderful when we finally take a big risk and it goes ok and the relief is so *whew*. giant kudos to you for taking the risk
    . i like to write about what happened and how good it felt and why it's so important in my journal so i can look back on it and it helps me take the next step forward.way to go slippy!  
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.  Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there. Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so. 
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Mar 04, 2011, 06:45 AM
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Way to go !!!!
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Mar 04, 2011, 07:12 AM
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Good work, (((((((((slip))))))))))
Knowing you don't have to if you don't want to is so huge. Just knowing that helps me be brave enough to dip into the pool a teeny tiny bit. T isn't going to come up behind me and shove me in. We can dip in as much as we want to, and then step away and come back when we're ready.
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Mar 04, 2011, 07:13 AM
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kudos!! And you're right, you have the control, you can stop if you want you can go if you want.
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Mar 04, 2011, 08:21 AM
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good for you! you were brave. and it helps so much to know you have control, and your wishes will be respected, doesn't it?
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#12
Mar 04, 2011, 08:50 AM
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Quote:
Maybe its too early in the morning and I am still half aslseep, but I don't get this. What are you trying to say? |
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#13
Mar 05, 2011, 11:45 PM
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Thank you everyone for all your support! It is enouraging to keep moving forward when I feel in control of the conversation. It has taken me over 4 years to bring this topic up in t. I finally found the right t and the right time. It felt like I couldn't avoid it anymore. It was like a bubbling well that finally surfaced.
Dino - I've missed you! RAWR! |
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