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Mar 13, 2011, 12:14 AM
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So I found out that my mom has an enlarged heart, congestive heart failure, and pulmonary hypertension. So I would like to talk about it with my T but she is on vacation for 2 weeks. She did however set me up with an interim T who I know very well.
I am not sure I have a point. I guess I just don't want to be alone in the knowledge that my mother may die soon. When my father died, I was torn up about it, and I hated him. I love my mother. It makes me wonder how well I will deal with it when the inevitable happens. I did promise her that I would not make myself sick with grief and end up in the hospital. Right now I am numb. I don't really feel anything about it. It doesn't really feel real. I keep picturing my dad's funeral and see my mother there instead of him. It is a horrifying vision. But it all seems so far away. Like I see myself but I am behind myself and I can't reach myself. If that makes any sense. So I will wait and talk to my T about it when she gets back. I'm scared. I miss T already. I don't want my mother to die.
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#2
Mar 13, 2011, 12:19 AM
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 (((((HUGS)))))
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#3
Mar 13, 2011, 12:37 AM
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Lauru: I'm sorry.
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Mar 13, 2011, 07:12 AM
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I'm sorry, Lauru. Your feelings make sense, they really do. It's hard to face losing ones you really love.
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Mar 13, 2011, 07:53 AM
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BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT  Dx, HUMAN Rx, no medication for that |
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Mar 13, 2011, 09:06 AM
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((((((Lauru)))))))
Life is a cycle. You know this. But it is hard to be in this world when death is a part of birth. My advice while you wait for your T is to not yet mourn what will happen. There will be enough time for that when nature happens. Right now it is your chance to make the very most of each day you have your mom. My S/O had her mother move up here with us, and she was in wonderful health. Thankfully, we try to leave each day fully. Momma was that way and loved to enjoy every single day. Of course, when she was first born, the doctors told her parents she wouldn't live past the age of 16. When she got pregnant, the doctors told her they wanted to take the baby because there was no way her body would survive childbirth. That baby became the love of my life - my S/O. Because each day was a known miracle for momma, she taught me how to respect life. She knew she could go any day (along with spine curved and other things, her heart had issues from compression). But it was not our place to dread what would happen. It was our place to learn from her how to enjoy every day for what gift it really was. She died suddenly and it floored us. It hurt us deeply. But because we had participated fully in her LIFE , we knew we hadn't missed the best part of knowing her. Trust me on this one. You will have some fear, and that is natural. But each time the fear comes up, focus on reaching out to your mom and connecting in the NOW. Enjoy what you have when you have it. BIG BIG hugs to you!! |
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Mar 13, 2011, 08:59 PM
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Lauru, I hope your mom is getting her treatment from excellent doctors who are familiar with heart health in women.
You mom's condition sounds very serious, but if she's getting proper treatment she can tell you she has years still to live. I've been through a heart attack and met many women who are living with heart disease. I know it is hard to hear about a life-threatening condition in a parent. So, I hope you are able to help her look at the ways she can have the best quality life in her remaining years - that positive view will help YOU. |
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Mar 17, 2011, 01:14 AM
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(((((WePow))))) Thanks so much for these words. They mean a lot to me.
 I do try and appreciate every moment I have with her. She is coming down this weekend to spend the night. My partner is very good about it and she is happy for me that I am so close to my mom. She is not close to her mom at all. So I will try and focus on the now and not the future. Quote:
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Mar 17, 2011, 01:16 AM
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(((((Black Canary)))) Thanks so much for the kind and thoughtful words. I know my mom is a strong woman. She has lived at least twice when the doctors wrote her off as dead. They said they never expected her to get better, but she did! I will try and focus on the positive. I guess it's really the only thing I can do to mitigate the pain.
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Mar 17, 2011, 01:18 AM
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(((((Everyone)))))
 Thanks to you all for the kind words. And the hugs. I really needed them. Thanks again. You all have given me a little hope, hope that I will be ok.
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Lauru-------------That's me, Bipolar and Watching TV I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. ---Robert Frost |
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