Feeling insecure

I really like the therapist I work with and she means a lot to me. Sometimes though I get the feeling she doesn't like working with me and just wishes I would go away. Everything can be going well and then she gets frustrated with me and will say something like we are at a crossroads or maybe this isn't working. I have to convince her I don't want to give up on the relationship, that I think it is working, that I have made progress, that her insight does help me. I feel insecure with her a lot for this reason. It is upsetting to me because I don't want to lose her. I don't want to make her frustrated. I sometimes feel I don't know how to do therapy right. I don't know if I am mindreading, progressing, or if I am right about my perceptions. Please help. This makes me so sad to think of losing her.

What actions or thing does she day that leave you feeling frustrated? Why do you think she is ready to 'give up on you?'

I don't think there is a 'right' way to do therapy....everyone's different and has different emotional needs.

I don't get frustrated much. She gets frustrated with me. I hope that clears things up.

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This is just my two cents, but I really believe T's shouldn't get mad or frustrated with clients who are working through things and having a tough time with their own process. If you were being mean or hostile, criticizing or disrespecting her...then those are grounds for her to be frustrated...but not for just being a client who needs help. Therapy is the one place where we don't have to please people...it isn't your job to remind her that your relationship is worth her time, or you are making progress...it's hers!

If you don't want to switch T's I suggest you talk to her about this. I know it's hard but you have to take care of yourself...hang in there

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I agree with Sweetlove - talk to your T about it!!

I have learned that a lot of my perceptions about T are colored by my insecurities and past experiences, so they are not always accurate.

Maybe your T isn't really frustrated with you, but maybe she is trying to find the best way to help you by trying to find out what is working and what isn't.

my T new saying is when in doubt check it out!!!not so easy for me to do if i'm afraid of the answer.but maybe you could ask you T about this and find out if she truely is frustrated with you.

Does she say she is frustrated with you, or is this your conclusion?

Your Youtube video link cracked me up! But at the same time leads me to believe, as I'm believing now, that forgiveness and self-forgiveness are fantasies and dreams and not really, truly accessible in real life.

I love it, too. My sons are the ones who showed me Llamas in Hats on Youtube. CAARRLLL!

Yes she has said she gets frustrated with me.