[PTSDlovemycats]

remind you of, resemble, or represent to you??

I think my T represents the aspects of my mom that were lacking when I was growing up. She also resembles one of my best friends. She seems to fill the void of what I was missing, missed, and is helping me to find and achieve my needs in the future.

[karebear1]

In the looks department, my T reminds me a little of the wife of a high school counselor I had.

Otherwise she reminds me of all things good..... even when we don't see eye to eye.

[Elli-Beth]

He reminds me of a couple of uncles that I have that are very tall and strong and silent. So at times I'm a little intimidated but I also know that he wouldn't let anybody hurt me, so his size kind of feels safe.

[SpiritRunner]

she reminds me in different aspects of a couple very dear friends, one more in the appearance/full-figured shape, the other by her unnerving directness (which this friend was/is quite known for!)
however, where I see the most symbolism (or transference if you will) is toward my current best friend, because in that relationship I have somewhat felt as though my friend were like a counselor/confidant more than just a .....I always wondered why there was an unequal feeling (not that we don't share a lot in common....) but a while ago, I realized it was because there was a therapeutic feel in our friendship - she IS the type who is a giver, a listener, a caretaker, a burden-bearer, her door is open to anyone in need, so she has been a huge support to me, but it felt a little lop-sided, because she shared less of her burden (and she's like this in general, not asking for her needs or thinking of them) with me than I shared of mine with her. And she expected it that way.....so no flippin' wonder it felt unequal, there was a therapist feel to her friendship! Anyway, my T relationship helped me see that....so maybe this friend is the one who my T reminds me most of....

[with or without you]

Superficially, she reminds me of a lot of my friends and dear friends of my mom because like them, she's Italian.

On a deeper level, she reminds me of a combo of caring teacher/mentor types I've had throughout my life. I don't really get a Mom, sister, or best friend feeling from her.

[ladyjrnlist]

He reminds me of my husband. Gentle, calm, even similar physical traits. Weird, eh?

I don't think I associate my t with any other person. He's just t to me.

[nannypat]

My T lets me imagine what it must have been like to have someone who "always had my back" when growing up which I never had. Also what it must have be like to have " a soft place to fall", All of this wrapped up into one person.

[BlessedRhiannon]

She reminds me a bit of an awesome teacher I had in middle school.

Mostly, I think she represents the person I'd like to be.

[Elana05]

Hi PTSD,

My T doesn't remind me of anyone I ever met before... Which is good. I really needed someone totally new in my life.

[Sweetlove]

His validation and acceptance reminds me of my dad. But, his love, support, and the ways he takes care of me are different than anyone I've ever known.

He represents a safe, supportive, trustworthy person that I have come to love and respect. He is just my T...no one else.

[pgrundy]

I don't know. After 5 visits I like her as a person well enough, but I don't feel bonded or invested in her OR in therapy in any way. In fact, half the time I feel like I coach HER on various things. I know that sounds snotty, but it's how I really feel. The only reason I keep going is that I don't want to end up in a hospital again--that, and the fact that for some reason our insurance pays for most of it (for now).

I don't feel like we are doing any serious work in therapy, just like I am checking in on a weekly basis to make sure I'm not melting down or anything. I guess that's not nothing.

[rainbow8]

My T looks a little like someone in my community, and she acts a lot like my first T in terms of her caring for me. She is emotionally stronger than I am, obviously, and not shy, but she's a little indecisive like I am. She's sweet and gentle and those traits remind me of a close friend of mine too.

[jexa]

My old T was like a mom to me. I got very attached and felt like a child in her office. She was incredibly warm and sweet, so compassionate that it became like a drug to me.

My new T doesn't put much of her own "presence" in the room. She doesn't remind me of anyone. She's very unassuming, not emotional but not at all cold, challenging at critical moments, only turning my own logic back on me, never anything of her own. She's compassionate, but not sweet. My T's in the past were all easy to get to know, even though they said very little about themselves, because of the style of logic they used as well as personal demeanor. This T is impossible to know. I don't know what she is like at all. But in a way that is not frustrating at all for me, which is very weird since I've been obsessive about T's in the past. In fact, it is a total relief. Instead of focusing on her, her reactions, what she must think, etc, I think more deeply about the issues I am bringing in to therapy.

She has a style that works well for me to make this possible. I am really glad to be relieved of my obsession.

[sunrise]

My T doesn't look like anyone I have ever known, so physically, he reminds me of no one. Since I've met T, I did meet a furniture salesman who reminded me of him, and coincidentally, they had the same name. That was strange! (I bought some nice furniture from this guy. )

What T represents to me might be a positive relationship with a male. I had a lot of unhappy years in a painful relationship in my marriage. It has been really healing for me to have a good relationship with a male.