[stolen_innocence08]

I've been having dreams about my therapist lately. They tend to vary. In two, my therapist is caring and loving and I'm dreaming that she's giving me the biggest hug and that I'm crying (though it's relieving) and it's an amazing feeling...I then suddenly wake up and realise it's all a dream

The other, fairly blurry but she does end up suddenly turning a little violent and pushes me etc...I'm crying and feeling helpless and then it ends.

In 'real life' my therapist is the totttttttttal opposite of caring and loving .... shes very much a blank slate with silences.....
What do these dreamd mean?

[Perna]

I use to dream about my therapist often and did day-before-yesterday when I was taking a nap, as a matter of fact

I figured out, for me, when my T or my husband were in a dream that it meant it was "safe" to examine whatever the "subject" of the dream was. If your dream were mine, I'd be wondering about my need/wish for nurturing and how I express anger.

But I always told my therapist my dreams and discussed them with her; sometimes she was better able to come up with ideas on what the subject was about. They are just dreams and often can be helpful seeing what your unconscious is grappling with during therapy and help get to those subjects easier.

Many of my dreams of my therapist were embarrassing to me but I didn't let that stop me talking them over with her. It felt awesome to get some of those "wishes" I kept locked up in my unconscious out there and discussed. I dreamed once my head was in her lap and she was running her fingers through my hair, soothing me, very loving. But I have also dreamed we were eating brunch together at a canal-side cafe when a brontosaurus came up out of the water beside us, chewing on some greenery

[with or without you]

One time I had a dream about T and it freaked me out. I dreamed I was in her house and we had a session in her living room. Her house had gold and marble walls (great interior design taste, eh? ) I don't remember anything else. I told her and how embarrassed I felt because I didn't want to look like I was obsessed with her. She was completely fine with it and said it didn't frighten or concern her at all. She asked me what I thought the dream meant, and I said I had no freaking idea. She thought it meant that I was beginning to really feel safe with her and to trust her (it was early in our relationship), and maybe even that I cared about her (the gold on the walls).

[with or without you]

Originally Posted by Perna

But I have also dreamed we were eating brunch together at a canal-side cafe when a brontosaurus came up out of the water beside us, chewing on some greenery

LOL hilarious!

[Marie123]

Not sure what your dream means, but a better question is......why are with a t who seems so....absent?

Marie

[sittingatwatersedge]

I believe I read somewhere that the reason Freud insisted that Ts remain as silent & blank as possible is because this would intensify the client's transference / projection. If true, then you are right on schedule I'd guess?